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dude. sucks.

I know break ups are really hard, and i feel for you.

Have you thought about texting an old friend and letting them know you’ve just been dumped after 4 years?

Self confidence is like a muscle - it needs exercise to get bigger and stronger.
try and look yourself in the mirror every moring and tell yourself your confident. list your good points. hit the gym to feel better physically. Start martial art class - if you feel you can handle yourself this is a HUGE confience booster. (trust me, i was really unconfident myself) The bonus is that you’ll meet new people doing this.

also - between this coming Monday and Sunday the 11th March - you ARE GOING TO speak, how ever briefly, to a girl you don’t know. Your also going ot look her in the eye and smile at her. nothing more. I know its nerve wracking, but the first few times are the hardest. After you get past this hurdle, make a point of looking ever girl you talk to in the eye and smiling. Also, if you see someone looking lost or confused - ask them if they need directions. Its an easy thing to talk about, you can bail again asap and you’ll help a fellow human being.

Little by little you’ll realise that talking to people isn’t that hard.

Hope this helps.

jb312..I’m on the same page ur on :/..I recently have been through a break up as well, actually very similar to ur story….I’m different with groups though, I like groups of people, but anywho enough bout me. I hope you get better soon ( I know it’s not the best advice, but like i said i’m going through the same thing you are so it’s kind of hard to give advice to a mirror :/ )…Wish ya luck..