Family help: I have a emotionally insecured ambitious jealous rich husband:

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I have a emotionally insecured ambitious jealous rich husband:

I stay in a joint family..basicaly my inlaws are very nice.. but my husband has this weird complex within him..he has excessive attachment towards that makes him compete with his dad to possess his mom…he has a younger brother as well..younger to him by six years..my brother in law is a chilled..lost in is own way..
So my husband often ends up whiling away the time at home by ******** about his father or stalking his younger brother..this has lead into some kinda weird team system..where eldest one is (my husband ) moms son and second one (my bro in law) is fathers son…initially i was ok with this ****..dint give a dam what is what and why.. but its been an year for now that i am married ..i have realized its effecting my marriage.. my husbands head is half of the time making strategies at home to keep things under his control…like seeing to that his mom doesnt switch sided… father and second son team doesnt get too strong…basicaly in this entire process my marriage is lost…i personally feel people who ahail from a reasonably rich family rear such kinda unwanted emotion… because i come from a middle class famliy..our emotions and the way we express love is more suttle and well played..no gimics envolved…i am gona talk this out to my husband as well..yet to do that,,,if things dont change even then ..i have decided
So i cant take this anymore:
I am gona distance myself from my husband..
Wont bring this marriage down to legal papers of divorce but will stay emotionally detached.because if i put my peace at stake then i cant be happy..we stay in a very very massive house so i can just be by myself….
Am i doing the right thing…its atleast better than taking the son away fom home to have a roof of your own..atleast i will not have to live with any guilt of stealing the son away…at the same time i can live a life of dignity and self esteem
I have chosen to distance myself from my husband…

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Dragon_Lady 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)

Marriage counseling. If he won’t go, go by yourself.

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IrAdler 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (3 hours, 20 minutes after post)

I would not stay in this marriage a second, especially if you choose to be married to the house now that is massive. You are fooling yourself by doing that. He will never change, no matter what cardinal direction of the house you will stay all by yourself. Your marriage that is based on a massive house will tumble down with the next tide like a sand castle built on a shore. Pack your belongings and leave. Where is your dignity lady?

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The Sherlockian 39 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (5 hours, 25 minutes after post)

The only hope I see for you requires two things: (1) you and your husband move out of that house, and (2) you both seek couples counseling. As long as he stays there, he will be caught up in sibling intrigues. Because there is so much wealth at stake, the sibling rivalry is keen. Your husband is probably unaware of how much this has affected your marriage. He needs a third party to clue him in. Good luck!

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