Family help: I may come off as a whiny little girl, so I apologize.

eatpieam

I may come off as a whiny little girl, so I apologize.

I was with a guy for 3 years, his name is Matt. We were recently engaged (My family has a a history of premature engagements, I suppose.) but, I discovered that he was cheating on me for those 3 years, and also proposed to the girl he was cheating with.
So we (obviously) broke up, and they’re setting a wedding date.
7-20-2012.

Is it wrong that I can’t get him off of my mind? I don’t mean to be an “obsessive ex-girlfriend/fiancé or whatever”, but I guess that’s the way I might be coming off.

We ‘d been through everything together, and he’s the only guy to ever see me cry, the things we’ve been through brought us closer (or so I thought…) and I can’t believe he’d do this.

I’m about to do something cliché;

What’s wrong with me? Why would he simply throw me over like that?
Will I ever be over him? And if I DO get over him, will I ever be the same?

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Z-Anonymous 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (7 minutes after post)

nothing is wrong with you….it sounds like you dodged a bullet…i mean what if you were married with children and then found out he cheats.

will you ever be over him….yes, if you want to be.
will you ever be the same….i don’t know…but i hope you will be a little wiser.

eatpieam 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (10 minutes after post)

I just can’t seem to wrap my head around it, I gave my all, and he let me drop.

But thank you (:

Ahhotep 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Maybe its just a compulsive thing with him. Doesn’t mean he didnt love you as best he could at the time.

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Z-Anonymous 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (15 minutes after post)

that’s the trouble with relationships….one person can do a lot of giving and the other does all the taking….

i’m sorry he hurt you….i’m sorry he was untrustworthy and dishonorable

i know the feelings will not always be as intense as they are right now. Give yourself time. Plan to be good to yourself….eat great food, get some exercise, spend time with friends, do something fun that you had been putting off doing…maybe take a vacation….

Z-Anonymous 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (17 minutes after post)

Doubletime wrote:
Maybe its just a compulsive thing with him. Doesn’t mean he didnt love you as best he could at the time.

yep- or just immature…wouldn’t choose between girls

generationx 12 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (28 minutes after post)

if he was engaged to two girls hes no good and you should keep that in mind when you have these feelings. it takes time to heal no matter what the circumstances youre normal well in that regard anyways lol

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TranquilTempest 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

You will get over him, it’ll just take time and you’ll have to work toward it. Concentrate on yourself, on making yourself happy :)

Does the other girl know he’d proposed to you?

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lucy252 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 hour, 17 minutes after post)

it sounds like your in the same boat as me, I spose we’ve gotta be strong n try and move on. it seems so easy to say but so hard to take in! keep your chin up n it’s a comfort to know I’m not the only one going this pain :( x

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