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hi, i am sorry to bother anyone here with some selfish thought i guess…

my problem is that, i feel like i am a totally selfish spoiled person, and i don’t like to help people even when they are in need, like this morning, a roommate lost her cell phone, i was asked to give mine to let her call her family to inform the tragedy. but i didn’t want to, i just didn’t care to help her. because maybe i remember all the **** things she did to me when i was wanting the help from her, and she’s always mean… but besides all that, i should’ve helped! but the thought was that, every time, a person asked me for help, i was always wondering how much it’s going to cost me of helping, and how not grateful he/she is, and how bad he/she is to me sometimes, or just why would i help? i get nothing from it… and i don’t like to share with people at all… so, i know it sounds so sympathetically selfish to everyone, and i really want to get rid of this horrible ‘personality’, i don’t know what can i do to make me realize it feels good to help people… help me. :/

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Gusty offline Verified User (3 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Helping people is good, but people for the most part are animals. They seldom reciprocate so watching out for number one isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Sure it’s good to help, help all you can, but when it hinders your own survival, its understandable not to. Survival of the fittest.

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fasion.guru1 offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (5 hours, 2 minutes after post)

Think it this way :

How would you feel if they dont help you?

Its okay if that person’s a ***** or whatever. So what? You cant be the same,cause then,there will be no difference between you nd her.

Plus,if the whole world started thinking like that..
It would be an apocalypse. ._.

So,go help!
Lmao. :D

Be normal,its not a big deal.
If nyone needs help nd you feel like helping,go help. If not,then dont think bout it.
Move on. :)

Love,Angel. (:

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desertgalleon offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (6 hours, 51 minutes after post)

I don’t blame you at all. A cell-phone is a very personal thing, and if you don’t trust her to use it, you shouldn’t let her.

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