friends help: I’m seeing my friend’s ex on a daily basis and I’m falling for him. - Help.com

Is there a way to involve a third person in this project? Maybe having someone else there so you’re not alone together would help.

First off you need to decide if the friend is more important to you than this guy. Second, after you’ve figured this out and if you want the guy more, you need to ask him why he is still with his girl if she isn’t there for him. It sounds like he is either treating you like a really good friend, a 3rs wheel to cheat with, or he has feelings for you and needs to get rid of his girl so yall can go out the right way. There’s just too many variables. You need straight up answers.

Sometimes the best thing to do is just wait and see what happens. At some point he’ll recognize that he likes you and will take action. Just sit back and play it cool. Keep listening to his problems and such and he will start to realize that your there for him and he likes you a lot.

taramalboeu wrote:
Sometimes the best thing to do is just wait and see what happens. At some point he’ll recognize that he likes you and will take action. Just sit back and play it cool. Keep listening to his problems and such and he will start to realize that your there for him and he likes you a lot.

Don’t forget he has a girlfriend. This kind of behaviour could break apart their relationship, and although he says she isn’t there for him, she could have no idea that anything’s wrong with the relationship. I’ve been that girlfriend before, thinking I have a good relationship, then finding out he’d been cheating and telling other girls our relationship was practically over anyway. It’s not a nice thing to go through.

I think you should tell him to be honest with his girlfriend at least. He doesn’t sound like the kind of guy you should be with if he’s stringing someone along like that; he could end up doing the same to you.

You need to also look at it from the girlfriends point of view. If he is hitting on you, then he is a cheater. And if he will cheat on her, what happens when he gets bored of you?

rogangirl wrote:
She has no idea because he told me he hasnt said anything to her because he doesnt believe she can change the things that bother him. She also says “i love yous”to him, and shes the one who comes to him everytime, he also said he doesnt even call her “girlfriend” yet… I can see hes not 100% into her, I sense he doesnt want be alone either. I dont know what to think anymore, maybe hes not even into me either and its all in my head, or maybe he just want to jump from a bad one to a less bad one, just not to be alone , i wouldnt like that either.