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I’m 14 and I was really happy with my boyfriend, we were together for 3 years.

we were alone one night and he wanted to start getting sexually active, so we started but it didn’t feel right. he left me to be with enother girl who he said was prettier than me and she was much better than he and he made me feel horribe. all the time now I feel depressed and worried about every thing. I had a French exchange over because my parents thought I would I like it and have fun but I didn’t. it was really boaring. that made me feel even worst about my self. my parents hate me they just think I’m lazy and have no social life and itry and tell them that I do but they just think its sarcasm r a joke. I don’t know what to do I have looked at signs of deppresion and I took 3 tests and they all said I had mild deppresion. I don’t know what I should do please help if you can I know it’s tricky.

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Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (2 minutes after post)

Your ex boyfriend was just immature and mean. Your parents don’t understand. Its pretty simple really. I hope you feel better. Some day you will get a nicer boyfriend.

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XxGlamGirlx offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (3 minutes after post)

thankyou I hope so, it’s just really hard to find someone who I like and they like me :/

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Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

It’ll happen.

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linuxya offline Verified User (6 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Your problem is simple.

You get all of your self-worth based on what you believe other people think of you.

This makes you a passive victim. You hand over control of your moods, your confidence, your life to other people.

That’s just silly.

When you start taking responsibility for your own emotions and your own self-confidence, you change your life. Stop being a victim… start being someone who takes tiny risks every day, who celebrates every tiny step towards your dreams and passions… give yourself what you need. Enjoy what others have to offer but don’t depend on it and don’t blame anyone else for your life or circumstances. Instead, focus on what you can do to move towards your goals.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Try and speak to your Mum about this, write it down in a letter if you think it might help. If you don’t feel like you can talk to your Mum, do you have an Aunt or close female family friend you can speak to about this or a trusted female teacher? Ask your Mum to take you to the doctor if all else fails. I hope you do get help with this, it is not nice to feel sad.

I am pleased you did not go further with this boy, as you must know anyway it is illegal at your age. Try and hold out until you are older. He does not sounds like a nice boy to treat you like this.

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XxGlamGirlx offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

thankyou I will try but my mum is very stubborn so I will try my brothers girlfriend she is like a sister to me, thanks for your advice :)

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Arden offline Unverified User #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (11 minutes after post)

That’s a good idea. I hope she can help you, take care :-)

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TranquilTempest offline Verified User (3 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (40 minutes after post)

There are tons of guys like that, but luckily there are plenty who will wait until you’re ready, too. You were right to turn him down because you weren’t ready, and doing so has let you see how much of a jerk he is. I’m sure your parents don’t hate you, more than likely they’re just worried. If you’re worried you have depression, you should try to speak to your mum, and go to see your doctor. No amount of online tests can diagnose it for you, you have to see a professional.

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