relationship help: I am thinking about changing my life, after a long time with

lucyfer

I am thinking about changing my life, after a long

time with many relationships, as in my other post, i have thought about leaving all that behind, and make a new start as a different person, now the problem is that i am not completely agreeing with it (I know it sounds weird), a part of me tells me to fight for my old girlfriend and eventualy get her back, another one to just completely give up and live my life without a meaning and going in a new relationship, and now the last part that is for the new start.
I already made some plans, i gave a realy nice girl in my japanese class a love letter, changed my music style, and my complete attitude, but, all these changes ( it took me a long time to accept them and realy try them out) can be undone easily, and i am a little afraid of getting hurt so badly like i did in my last relationships, and i am not to sure if i should keep going on this new path or continue on my old, of course, the old one is a dark one and i will definatly not help me getting stronger as a person, but the other one may also not work, do you know if i should change my old, obseesed, pessimistic, to the newer optimistic, light hearted one? I know it sounds weird, but i am realy split up because of this

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linuxya 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (2 minutes after post)

“a part of me tells me to fight for my old girlfriend and eventualy get her back, another one to just completely give up and live my life without a meaning and going in a new relationship, and now the last part that is for the new start.
I already made some plans, i gave a realy nice girl in my japanese class a love letter”

Are you kidding me?

You need to spend some time on your own to develop the “new you”. That means making new friends, exploring new possibilities, doing new things.

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Dr. Ozy 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (10 minutes after post)

trying a new attitude is a good idea. trying a new girl is not.

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lucyfer 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (13 minutes after post)

I am spending time on my own, everyday only consists of that… I don´t do anything else, and friends is not realy the thing i want, need, or expect to get, my possibilitys arent realy intersting me, i COULD make almost everything, i just donßt want to, and i am not realy the fan of doing new things and rather stick to the gaming/reading/music/dating combo, it fits more in my oppinion, i don´t realy know why spending time on myself helps, i did it for a long time after i listened to a advice and focused on myself, and it didnt realy help me, also, the new me is already finished, i am just a little torn apart and am not completely trusting it, not sure if that new way will hold for much time, it will depend on the next few weeks/months, i atleast hope it will work, since i used much time and effort on this new way, it would be a shame if it would be for nothing

lucyfer 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (15 minutes after post)

a wild ozy appears wrote:
trying a new attitude is a good idea. trying a new girl is not.

maybe, maybe i am a little to rushing, maybe i am just having not enough patience, but in some way i have to see if the new way works, don´t I?, sorry if it sounds weird, but without a real, well, succes the new attitude is as much worth as a fridge on the north pole, if you understand

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lucyfer 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (5 days, 7 hours after post)

I always give a second, a third, or a fourth thought into important things like that, not doing so would be impulsive, stupid, and would only lead to more pain

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (5 days, 7 hours after post)

i don´t trust my instincts, they arent working right, i am sure they don´t, neither can i trust my heart

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