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I met a guy randomly online.

We clicked right away, he said all of the right things. He is from another country, so after about month of him calling me several times a day, several e-mails and hours Iming, he flew 22 hours to meet me, how about that for flattery? He was EVERYTHING I wanted in a man, right down to his stupid NZ accent (I cringe whenever I hear one on TV now, literally makes me sick to my stomach!!!!)
He made plans to visit again, telling me that he would do everything he could to make sure I didn’t forget him…Then one day, he turned, told me that he had been in a relationship with someone for years, that I was just fun. Mind you this was all through IM. He called me weak and stupid, and had the nerve to ask me if we could continue, oh, and he also spent the conversation telling me how I could never be as perfect as his GF and that she was his soul mate. I felt so stupid, betrayed, humilated, espeically when he told me that at that moment he was IMing 2 other unsuspecting women, luring them in.
This was over 2 weeks ago. I hate him yet still love him, well maybe not him, more of the fake him. I cut off all contact got rid of everything, pics, letters, emails voice mails everything and feel depressed, lost weight and cried through out the holidays.
The kicker of all of this? When I woke up this morning and checked my email, there was a IM request from him to become a contact again, can we say CRAZY??? Of course I blocked him, but have been spending the day wondering what the hell he wanted. To try to manipulate me more? To tell me that he got married and rub it in?
Whatever it is, I am not going to find out, him contacting me makes me feel like I have more control over the situation. Does that sound crazy?

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1 year, 2 months ago (30 minutes after post)

of course just to humilate you more. He’s shown you how weak he is. Why would you indulge your fantasy of this loser? there has to be someone out there a lot more steady than him, if you walk into his web again you’re caught - and stupid is not far behind

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Siren offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (48 minutes after post)

wow thats cruel, im sorry to hear this happened to you. sounds like a sad loser and if his gf was so perfect and his soul mate he wouldnt be IMing other women.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (54 minutes after post)

that does sound crazy indeed. just stay strong, i suppose. at first i was thinking thinking this is one of those things ‘he did not plan’, but then again you said he did the same thing to two others… then, for the love of everything that is good in this world, stay strong

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 43 minutes after post)

Good, don’t answer him. Not after what he said to you.

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