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I think those sites are a big waste of time and self confidance ^^

all commercials are pathetic and sickness inducing.

… so says the Fish

There are a lot of scam dating sites. A lot of the profiled ‘matches’ aren’t even available. They are just profiled to pull you in and get your money.

I hope I didn’t shock you by agreeing with you. :)

One question. Do you think women are golddigging scum?

blackbook668 wrote:
One question. Do you think women are golddigging scum?

I do disagree with this. The sites are only caring about profit. Some of the people on the sites are con artists and don’t have the right intentions. That much is true. But that’s no different than any social situation in life where the objective is to ‘hook up’ with somebody.

Not everyone who wants to ‘hook up’ is looking to fall in love. Some don’t want an ongoing relationship. Some will definitely try to take you (and your wallet) for a ride. That happens to men and women alike! You have to trust your instincts and take your time getting to really know someone.

I think its a waste of time. Going out and finding people works way better. Dating sites are for lazy people with alot of money. (Not trying to offend you…but most people who use these sites are lazy and rich…like you said)

Kitten_Ciao wrote:

blackbook668 wrote:
One question. Do you think women are golddigging scum?

I do disagree with this. The sites are only caring about profit. Some of the people on the sites are con artists and don’t have the right intentions. That much is true. But that’s no different than any social situation in life where the objective is to ‘hook up’ with somebody.

Not everyone who wants to ‘hook up’ is looking to fall in love. Some don’t want an ongoing relationship. Some will definitely try to take you (and your wallet) for a ride. That happens to men and women alike! You have to trust your instincts and take your time getting to really know someone.

The OP’s attitude could be this but I’m wondering if he means that or just generally what he sees as golddigging ladies turning him down. Note he doesn’t mention profit or scamming.

“shallow gold digging hookers”….what else did you expect them to be, the girl of your dreams?!

bobosnickums wrote:
“shallow gold digging hookers”….what else did you expect them to be, the girl of your dreams?!

That’s what they promise. And the OP is mad it ain’t true so far for him.

MatchAffinity for example has some BS statistic that 40% of have used the internet date sites and are in a stable relationship. Yeah, sure. I’ll believe that when they find out Elvis is still alive.

just because a website says something, doesnt make it true. They can say anything they want, and you’d have to be pretty gullible to believe that.
There’s no reason internet dating would be any more successful than any other type of dating.

And judging from the replies and posts Ive seen from this OP, yea, Id say attitude has a hell of a lot to do with it. No one likes a sulky whiner

Kitten_Ciao wrote:

blackbook668 wrote:
One question. Do you think women are golddigging scum?

I do disagree with this. The sites are only caring about profit. Some of the people on the sites are con artists and don’t have the right intentions. That much is true. But that’s no different than any social situation in life where the objective is to ‘hook up’ with somebody.

Not everyone who wants to ‘hook up’ is looking to fall in love. Some don’t want an ongoing relationship. Some will definitely try to take you (and your wallet) for a ride. That happens to men and women alike! You have to trust your instincts and take your time getting to really know someone.

http://www.scaminformer.com/scam-repo… this might interest you. It is very revealing of what kind of site MatchAffinity is for example.

generalize all you want, doesnt make you right.

g.men200 wrote:
sorry but after the last 3 years of dealing with these women and their shallow gold digging ways. i dont have to say anything positive, why bother? it has come to my conclusion that they are all the same, period.

It is as I thought. The problem is you’re seeing these women in a rather misogynistic way. You are not seeing them as just like anyone else, just like you, a person trying to get on in life the best they can. You are seeing them as women. Women instead of people.

I may not know much but I’m sure a woman will treat you better the sooner you stop seeing her as a commodity to be got and more as a friend.

g.men200 wrote:
sorry but after the last 3 years of dealing with these women and their shallow gold digging ways…

the fish you catch eats the bait your lure it with

…so says the Fish

g.men200 wrote:

blackbook668 wrote:

g.men200 wrote:
sorry but after the last 3 years of dealing with these women and their shallow gold digging ways. i dont have to say anything positive, why bother? it has come to my conclusion that they are all the same, period.

It is as I thought. The problem is you’re seeing these women in a rather misogynistic way. You are not seeing them as just like anyone else, just like you, a person trying to get on in life the best they can. You are seeing them as women. Women instead of people.

I may not know much but I’m sure a woman will treat you better the sooner you stop seeing her as a commodity to be got and more as a friend.

ok so say you just want to be friends first, doesnt matter with me, i still get rejected. tell me how i am suppose to walk around confident with a smile on my face. hurt too many times has me defensive, i doubt that will ever change. o yea, i know, if i dont change my bad attitude, nothing will change, correct? (just wanted to say that before someone else did)

Currently I am reading Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway and it talks of being the victim. Maybe you should read it. It says saying such things as I can’t gives of bad vibes. But it also acknowledges that there is fear and there are doubts holding you back.
But even not reading that book I can tell you, blaming the girls, becoming their enemy, is definitely not gonna solve the problem.

g.men200 wrote:
i am not trying to be anyone’s enemy, do you think i go out in public and talk like this? this is why i use these types of forums, to vent and get what really upsets me off of my chest. will i ever change my way of thinking about this situation? i dont know, until something “GOOD” happens i wont. now all these so called “negative” and “positive” vibes, i dont buy into any of that nonsense. some of the most cruelest people on the planet have great luck with women, oh yea i forgot, those are the rich snobby aholes. maybe i need to sell my soul to the devil so i can be one of them, then i can have pretty much any women i want. for the right price…

I reckon that is probably the case but the feelings are there and they influence how you are towards a girl. You may get more stressed.
The book says stressing at people, other people is just turning yourself into a victim and not doing anything. It gives a good example as well. You know girls who always go on about men, men, men being bad and all of them are ***** ect. Well don’t you think they should stop going on about bad men and try and find a good man or something to improve their relationship. Only they don’t see that. That’s the negative.

It’s rather hard to feel though and to change it. Maybe go to the library and check it out.

why not get off the dating sites and meet real people?

that said it IS your attitude towards it, if you expect someone to be a gold digger then thats the kind of person you attract.

g.men200 wrote:

Siren wrote:
why not get off the dating sites and meet real people?

that said it IS your attitude towards it, if you expect someone to be a gold digger then thats the kind of person you attract.

i have not been out looking for a women in months, i dont even waste my time anymore. no matter if i come off and a sweet, charming older man or just a straight *******. nothing works, unless you have good looks and money, PERIOD

if thats how you think then youll never find anyone. not every woman is the same, just like not every man is. ive had my fair share of complete assholes but everyone gets a clean slate. just coz one person did it doesnt mean another will

As much as girls like to say “I’m into personality” if you aren’t good-looking to some extent. They aren’t going to want to know. But, the same goes for guys too. If you’re ugly as ****, you aren’t going to bother wanting to get to know that person..because you aren’t physically attracted to them. I suppose that’s why Dating sites promote “personality” and bios. Because, it real life you see the persons face and body first, if you don’t like what you see on the surface..you aren’t going to go digging for the person underneath.

Human intergration and society will eventually be destroyed by human laziness and the fear of lonliness because we’re all so self-concious that we won’t face people with our faces. -.- That’s probably because we’re all shallow and simple-minded to some extent..but that’s natural and we’re all attracted to different types of people..so yeah.

Go outside, and meet some peeps.
Or not.
Your choice.

g.men200 wrote:

lemonlimebabe wrote:
As much as girls like to say “I’m into personality” if you aren’t good-looking to some extent. They aren’t going to want to know. But, the same goes for guys too. If you’re ugly as ****, you aren’t going to bother wanting to get to know that person..because you aren’t physically attracted to them. I suppose that’s why Dating sites promote “personality” and bios. Because, it real life you see the persons face and body first, if you don’t like what you see on the surface..you aren’t going to go digging for the person underneath.

Human intergration and society will eventually be destroyed by human laziness and the fear of lonliness because we’re all so self-concious that we won’t face people with our faces. -.- That’s probably because we’re all shallow and simple-minded to some extent..but that’s natural and we’re all attracted to different types of people..so yeah.

Go outside, and meet some peeps.
Or not.
Your choice.

i appreciate the advice, my age bracket is harder then you might think. some random 20 year old could hit a club or a local beach. at my age and financial status, it is alot different, they dont have 40 and over bars around here. they dont have 40 and over singles nights around here. it is like there is nothing to cater to the older community. i live in a very small city, unless your military here or in your lower to mid twenties you wont meet anyone. these are not excuses, but plain facts, so tell me, what does a 40 year old man have in common with a twenty-something year old?

Yes, Yes, all things needed to be taken into thought.
I’m sure you aren’t the only 40-something single male in your entire city, but, then again; people say things like this all the time and truth be told, I personally know nothing of the adult working world.

Do you have Kids? Or anything else tying you to your current location? You could search for happiness elsewhere? A bigger city?

A relationship isn’t the most important thing in the world, (I mean in the sense of a boyfriend or girlfriend) maybe make some new friends? develop a hobbie, meet new people and make friends, whom can perhaps introduce you to someone special in the long run?

There’s always someone for everyone, it just takes time and dedication to find them. :)

Mm. Well, just keep hard working at school and something will come along. Because you seem like a genuinely nice guy :)

And I think a change of scenery would do you a world of good, just keep it in mind and it may even be a good distraction because the more you work towards it you’ll think less about the relationships ect.

Good Luck.