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Hey guys, I think I forgot how to be social.

Or lost my social skills? I don’t know. I just know I suck at being social! I feel awkward like I don’t fit in with everyone else. I guess the saying if you don’t use it you lose it, really applies?

I enjoy being on the internet and got comfortable talking to strangers online. When I talk to people in real life I feel more quiet as a person. Online I’m a chatterbox.

Before I remember when I was normal, making friends was easy, talking was easy. With my RL friends we used to hardcore play this game called RuneScape for like 3 years. We used to play it together all the time.

But now…. second year of college… I feel like it was a mistake to use the internet/computer for so long. (8-15 hours a day, didn’t watch TV, internet/computer was the new best thing). I still don’t watch TV to this day… LOL I’m on the computer right now..

You know that joke, “get outside and see real life for once” I used to laugh at that, “who doesn’t go outside.” Now I realize… I haven’t been outside in weeks since I’m taking a semester of college off. I have no social life. I don’t even know where to begin to get one!

What do I do?! Will talking on skype gain social skills? What is social skills if talking is not–acting? I feel like I don’t relate to anyone, it’s hard to make friends!

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teken edited this post 1 year, 1 month ago. Read the previous text »

Hey guys, I think I forgot how to be social. Or lost my social skills? I don’t know. I just know I suck at being social! I feel awkward like I don’t fit in with everyone else.

I enjoy being on the internet and got comfortable talking to strangers online. When I talk to people in real life I feel more quiet as a person. Online I’m a chatterbox.

I used to hardcore game this game RuneScape for like 3 years, me and my RL friends used to play it together.

But now…. second year of college… I feel like it was a mistake to use the internet/computer for so long. (8-15 hours a day, didn’t watch TV, internet/computer was the new best thing). I still don’t watch TV to this day… LOL I’m on the computer right now..

You know that joke, “get outside and see real life for once” I used to laugh at that, “who doesn’t go outside.” Now I realize… I haven’t been outside in weeks since I’m taking a semester of college off. I have no social life. I don’t even know where to begin to get one!

What do I do?! Will talking on skype gain social skills? What is social skills if talking is not–acting?

teken edited this post 1 year, 1 month ago. Read the previous text »

Hey guys, I think I forgot how to be social. Or lost my social skills? I don’t know. I just know I suck at being social! I feel awkward like I don’t fit in with everyone else. I guess the saying if you don’t use it you lose it, really applies?

I enjoy being on the internet and got comfortable talking to strangers online. When I talk to people in real life I feel more quiet as a person. Online I’m a chatterbox.

Before I remember when I was normal, making friends was easy, talking was easy. With my RL friends we used to hardcore play this game called RuneScape for like 3 years. We used to play it together all the time.

But now…. second year of college… I feel like it was a mistake to use the internet/computer for so long. (8-15 hours a day, didn’t watch TV, internet/computer was the new best thing). I still don’t watch TV to this day… LOL I’m on the computer right now..

You know that joke, “get outside and see real life for once” I used to laugh at that, “who doesn’t go outside.” Now I realize… I haven’t been outside in weeks since I’m taking a semester of college off. I have no social life. I don’t even know where to begin to get one!

What do I do?! Will talking on skype gain social skills? What is social skills if talking is not–acting?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (11 minutes after post)

This can happen if you spend too much time away from people. Your social skills are still there you just need to bring them out– think of it like starting a sport after you’ve been away from it for a while. Just get out there and socialize! Universities have plenty of events for students where you can meet people. It will be hard and awkward at first, and you may feel reluctant and shy, but don’t second-guess yourself and just do it!

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teken 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (29 minutes after post)

latoyamontgomery2 wrote:
This can happen if you spend too much time away from people. Your social skills are still there you just need to bring them out– think of it like starting a sport after you’ve been away from it for a while. Just get out there and socialize! Universities have plenty of events for students where you can meet people. It will be hard and awkward at first, and you may feel reluctant and shy, but don’t second-guess yourself and just do it!

Oh thank you latoyamontgomer2! I wonder what events my college has. I will look into it, thank you for the suggestion!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours, 29 minutes after post)

You could also think of not identifying yourself with an avatar name based on an arcade game! Think about who you really are. People have different interactions on-line to in life. I find real world interactions easier because of para-linguistic cues (smiles, posture, tone of voice) are, for me all important. Being quiet in company is not a bad thing. You have to allow others’ space to interact talk etc. I agree that going to events is a good idea but I do notice that these das a lot of my friends interact more on line. It saves time, friendships extend around the globe. The crucial thing is that at some point they aqll meet even once a month or even once a year.

But its a value judgement to say on-line life is worse than real life, its different and both situations have pros and cons. If you are at college arrange a lunch time to sit and talk with fellow students.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (2 months, 1 week after post)

Hello, I also have the same kinda problem. I dont remember being shy at all when I was younger, but now as an 19 year old, I find it hard to talk to new people I meet. Trying hard to think of things to talk about but I just cant figgure out what to say. Ive been playing online videogames for a long time and spent most days just playing and talking to friends on skype, and I strongly suspect this is the reason for me being so shy. I have stopped playing videogames as I have gotten a job and such, but its like it doesnt help, im just wondering if I ever will be good at talking to people, specially girls ever again, and this really concerns me. Feels like me as a person is telling me to not say anything, and just sit an listen. I really f**** hate that feeling. I dont want to act that way. People will just judge me and say that im weird. Is there any way that I can improve my self confidence and to improve my social skills?

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