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Bad Idea to be the Good Guy?

I’m starting to think so. I’m currently struggling (but successfully) living a drug free life after nearly a decade of exstensive use and abuse. Im trying real hard to get my life back on track but part of me feels like why?

I look around me daily at different places that i’ve applied and never got hired or even an interview. Then i look at thier staff. It’s full of drug addicted, half *** working, multiple times convicted felons. Yet here i am, no criminal record, clean and sober and i can’t get a job.

All these homeless people (who choose to be homeless), and felons seem so happy to. They don’t stress bills, they don’t have any so they don’t pay them. They hardly get mad n fight (usually cause they’re are to doped out) but still…

Why am i trying to be good and improve my life when really im getting no where and it’s making me unhappy when everyone around me keeps doing worst (drug wise) but they get employment and unlike me are happy.. UGH! why?

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Tymbus offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

First of all congrats on your drug free life. NEVER undersestimater how important that is. Secondly, the job market is hard in the USA and UK. There is no one way into work. Try volunteering, or anything that will give you a good refeence

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1 year, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Keep trying for a job, remember jealousy is a potent poison, and belive me it will destroy you. Just because people do drugs and have jobs dosent mean you should. You are you. But on the other hand I guess you should be yourself, just be aware of the consequences.

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babacup offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 1 year, 2 months ago (29 minutes after post)

I know getting off drugs is hard to do, so I commend you on sticking with it.

I think right now you are in a transision period of your life. So you are feeling furstrated and angry and disappointed. But you need to have faith that your life is going to get better. There is a lot going on with you right now and you need stay focused on staying clean and making a living. These drugged out people with jobs that you think are happy, are not truely happy. DO not give then any thought, do not think they have it better then you, they do not.

Job + doped out does not + happiness.

You may not feeling like you are getting any where, but you are. You are clearing your mind and body of the drugs, and that is a getting somewhere better then you were.

Changing your life for the better takes time. It is little steps that are hardly visable. Then one day you see how far you have really come.

Keep positive is the best thing you can do. When angy, dissappointment, blame, and frustrations start taking over your thoughts, you need stop them. You need to keep saying I can do this. I can make my life the way I want it to be.

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babacup offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 1 year, 2 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Job + doped out does not = happiness

That is what I meant to type

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