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I concur with your concerns, a kid making a bad model car, is far better than watching someone make a good one.
This pushing people to be successful does account for a lot of people who post on help.com seeing themselves as failures.
I failed O level in computers then A level in computers and then a degree in computers, but the university I went to had a 2Mhz ICL computer with punched cards whilst I had a 4Mhz computer I built myself at home with a VDU.
I have run a successful computer company for 25 years.
I am lucky I know my status and don’t need professional teachers or parents to tell me how good I am.
yeah they should just get themselves into Harvard or Yale and shut up.
The parents of today are mentally defecient to raising their children.
It’s sick - a neurological disorder.
There can be no children who actually “win” because “it hurts the feelings of children who lost.”
Well, that’s how it’s supposed to be. How else will the loosers try harder the next time?
I have a friend that I grew up with. He’s a little bit younger than me. He has two boys under 12, and is divorced.
When we were growing up, we hunted, fished, camped, hiked, shot guns, built forts, built fires, worked and played. There’s a certain quality that experiences like that build in a person(s).
Well, needless to say, I found some pictures of he and I when were the same age as his two boys. . . You would not believe the words I lack to describe the contrast.
I asked my friend to pull out a picture of his two boys. I gave him the picture of us and I said, “friend,” everyone’s the same age in all these photos.
He looked at them and couldn’t believe it. I bluntly said your boys will never see manhood, because you do not provide those things necessary to be men.
He gave me a look.
“Don’t look at me that way, look at the difference.”
Video game, indoor life, buffering, pampering, no autonomy, no challenge, no adventure, never a chance to get anything wrong - never a chance to get anything right - the modern day parenting philosophy, let the schools raise them.
There are other factors I’ll not delve into, but parents today, do not give out even a portion of childood to their children, that they had.
The end is in sight.
You raise some very interesting insights there BIG AL ONE.
Everything keeps changing, just as it always has done. When we were younger manual labour was more the norm, jobs in engeneering, building trades, machinery work in factories almost anything you think of was labour intensive. This mainly has now gone.
We have to work in an environment of safety in the workplace, that’s fine but it has got out of hand.
To keep fit we need the gym but neglect ourselves at the same time. This neglect is partly due to what we eat, our foods are tampered with, addatives of all kinds so that our food is never fresh, unless we grow our own. The addatives to keep the food looking good for longer but not as nutritous as the way they were when we were younger. A lot of the addatives detremental to our health and a lot of them causing serious illnesess of the liver, the pancrious the heart and kidneys.
Our young people are expected to be able to run before they learn to walk and walk before they learn to crawl.
Here in England they are sent to pre-school at age two/three. In my oppinion that is far to young.
Equality between wonen and men is now here, in my oppinion way overdue. That has changed the world we live in.
Your right about parents not wanting to be there to look after their children and expecting schools to do the job for them, the list goes on and on. Is there an answer?
Now, about these easter eggs. They can build bigger, better and stronger fencing to keep the parents out or better still, use the money for that to give all of the children an easter egg.
Great responses Big Al and thep. I also see this happening with hockey parents. They would physically fight either with another parent or with the referee if they are not satisfied with the outcome. Also, the school I teach, parents are pressuring their kids to produce nothing else but A+ all the time. Kids are scared to take chances and make mistakes which are part of learning. Today’s kids don’t know how to play without having the latest gadget in their hands. Interesting to see them during recess times when there isn’t any toys to play with. Some don’t even know how to kick a ball or don’t want to cooperate in a group playing activity. Very sad indeed.
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Is not an “Easter egg hunt” supposed to take place on Easter?
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“Last April’s egg hunt, sponsored by the Old Colorado City Association, experienced a few technical difficulties, said Mazie Baalman, owner of Rocky Mountain Chocolate Factory and sponsor of the event.
There was no place to hide the plastic eggs, which were filled with donated candy or coupons redeemable at nearby businesses. So thousands of eggs were put in plain view on the grass. A bullhorn to start the event malfunctioned, so Baalman, master of ceremonies, used a public address system that was hard to hear.” http://www.freep.com/article/20120326…
Seems to me that the organizers could better control the situation with simple means. Separate the adults from the children. If a parent steps into the “no adult zone”, the hunt stops and eggs are returned to the lawn until order is returned. Then start the hunt again.
I don’t think the helicopter parents were breaking the rules to give their kids an edge. They were more after the prizes inside the eggs which included discounts and certificates for free items at local businesses. They were being greedy! If you remove the swag, no need to have the parents get involved in the first place. The parents were wrong, no doubt. But organizers could get a handle on this easily but chose no to. Sorry kids…
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Easter egg hunt canceled because of aggressive parents.
This from Colorado Springs, Colorado: “Organizers of an annual Easter egg hunt attended by hundreds of children have canceled this year’s event, citing the behavior of aggressive parents who swarmed into the tiny park last year, determined that their kids get an egg.
That hunt was over in seconds, to the consternation of egg-less tots and their own parents. Too many parents had jumped a rope set up to allow only children into Bancroft Park in a historic area of Colorado Springs.” http://zionica.com/2012/03/26/easter-...
Has anyone else noticed that today’s parents won’t let kids be kids? The term for them is “helicopter parents,” because they hover over their children trying to ensure that their child is “successful” in every endeavor in life.
A few years ago a co-worker had a son in the Cub Scouts. The Scouts were having the annual “Pine Derby” model car race. The kids were supposed to carve a race car out of a block of wood, add wheels, and then enter it into a race where the cars would roll down an inclined ramp. None of the kids touched their own cars–their fathers did all the work. When my co-worker’s car came in at second place, his son said to him, “Well, Dad, I guess you didn’t build such a good race car, did you?”
When I was a kid, we’d go to a vacant lot and play baseball. No adults. We had a great time. Then I was entered in Little League, and the competitiveness of the parents spoiled the games for us kids.
Parents are fighting to get their kids in the “best” pre-school programs and kindergartens just as hard as they would fight to get their kids into Harvard or Yale.
Does anybody else see anything wrong with this picture? Why can’t we just let kids be kids, and stop worrying that they won’t be “successful”?
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