Love help: Should I just step away? - Help.com

Have you tried having a heart to heart with her? She may back down if you say something.

I’ve tried but she doesn’t want to talk to me… She’s very highly strung & easily upset :\
I wasn’t mean or rude… She seems to really resent me

My boyfriend has also said if it comes down to it, he’d choose his friend and not me

Wow, if he really said that then I’d just get out while you can. Nothing good could come of something like that.

It breaks my heart to say it, but I think you’re right

Ever talked your your boyfriend about it?
You don’t have to sacrifice your needs to make some random people happy, and some friend of your boyfriend doesn’t automatically has to be a friend of yours; it’s a total stranger to you, you don’t owe her anything.
Two friends, had some s3x once but didn’t take it to the relationship level. That’s it, what’s done is done, people have s3x all the time and it doesn’t have to always lead to relationships. Again, what’s done is done, no relationship status - no relationship. If she’s having some jealousy issues it’s her personal problem and she should deal with it. Again, you don’t have to take into account any of her wants or needs or wishes.

You won’t like this but here is my opinion if you want it-

I really don’t see a problem except for you not being able to deal with jealousy. They are not sleeping together now and he assured you of that. You love him but don’t like his best friend, and this is rooted in the fact that one day they slept together. Thats not really his problem, is it?

I would never want my partner coming in between me and my best friend especially if we are not doing anything wrong. I agree with what he told you. I suggest you deal with your personal issues and try not to wreck a good relationship you have.

Even if you decide to separate from him because of this, believe me the same problem will keep presenting itself to you in a different format, until you can start being secure and confident within yourself.

I don’t want to break them up, I don’t care that they slept together, I get bugged by the fact that she is always blaming me for things & tries to get between us when we hang out & now says she doesn’t want me around the at all when they hang out. I’m hardly around when they hang out as it is

Anonymous wrote:
I don’t want to break them up, I don’t care that they slept together, I get bugged by the fact that she is always blaming me for things & tries to get between us when we hang out & now says she doesn’t want me around the at all when they hang out. I’m hardly around when they hang out as it is

Well in that case its just totally ridiculous and unacceptable and I don’t see why your boyfriend doesn’t see it. This is classic disrespect.

Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you will not tolerate it. If he carries on then really, you should leave them to it and walk away. Otherwise you will never get any peace.

To me you don’t have a boyfriend. Your boyfriend and her are boyfriend/girlfriend and you are not his girlfriend. He doesn’t step up to you but follows what the girl says and he openly acknowledged he would choose her over you which he already did. Step aside and let them enjoy each other. You will find someone else who would be your true boyfriend.

Anonymous wrote:
My boyfriend has also said if it comes down to it, he’d choose his friend and not me

then he doesn’t really love you. he doesn’t cherish you above his other friends. he doesn’t respect you or care if his actions hurt his feelings. he won’t stand up for you in front of his friend. like beatricegalant says, he’s not really even your boyfriend. leave him.

Thank you all

I ended the relationship & within an hour he was dating his friend & they are still together… It still hurts but I’m glad to be away from them both!

I am glad you made the right decision.

beatricegalant wrote:
I am glad you made the right decision.

Ditto. Hope your doing alright.