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How do you forgive someone who is not even sorry?

How do you actually forgive someone who ruined your entire life and put you through so much pain and struggle, and they’re not even sorry about what they did? I try to forgive them, I can’t, I moved on with my life but forgiving them is always in the back of my head..
Ps. What they did is still till this moment and for further future affecting me deeply, but I just move on with my life because I’m in independent, educated and strong enough to understand that it won’t help stopping at this point and ruining my life even more because of someone who is already out of my life.

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Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (17 minutes after post)

One way is to classify them as incapable of understanding what they did. Like just lable them as an idiot.

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The Sherlockian offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 38 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (45 minutes after post)

We forgive in order that we may be forgiven.

Forgiving someone doesn’t mean that what they did was OK, or that you approved of it. It just means that you’re letting go of the hate and anger and desire for any revenge.

Pray that this person sees the light before it’s too late for him or her.

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IamArn offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Glasgow, V2, GB | 1 year, 1 month ago (58 minutes after post)

I think forgiveness needs to be earned. If they are unrepentant, well, F..orget them. they arn’t worthy of forgiveness or your care.
Don’t waste energy hating them, as they’re not worth that either. Just forget about them as a person.

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ataloss offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 55 minutes after post)

Sounds to me you are on your way to forgiving them. I pray for people that do unforgiveable acts towards me and it REALLY does help.

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DrAwesomeMcCool offline Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours, 23 minutes after post)

You don’t actually have to forgive anyone.

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Jolly Delta Charger offline Verified User (3 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours, 36 minutes after post)

Forgiveness is a choice on your part.
Being sorry is a choice on their part.
The two do not have to connect or precede one before the other.

Yes sometimes Person A will say I’m sorry to Person B and Person B will then tell them that they forgive Person A.

An alternative is that Person A cam say sorry and Person B chooses to never forgive Person A.

In your case Person A has not apologized or said sorry and you as Person B must choose whether you forgive them or not.

The decision depends on if you want to start letting go of the pain.

Patience, Clarity, Prosperity.

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wa.water offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (8 months, 1 week after post)

I have found the easiest way to move forward is to energetically focus on something I really want for me. I create challenges and give them all my focus and energy. When I accomplish things this way (and in some instances I have achieved amazing things) I suddenly find myself feeling very generous towards the people who once caused me great pain and deliberate suffering, even stealing hard-earned opportunities from me or denying me the means to achieve success career-wise or romantically. I smart and burn for some time (months, years at worst!) and then set myself a new goal and challenge. Forgiveness ultimately is possible if you never let yourself down. Hope this helps!

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