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He’s still not over me after a year.

He broke up with me over a year ago. We had only been together for about four months, he had said he loved me but I thought it was too fast so I didn’t say it back. The next week he broke up with me, but was really sketchy on why he was breaking up with me. I was angry at first, mainly because he couldn’t offer any sort of explanation but I just moved on with my life after a few failed attempts at getting him to explain himself. Then a few months ago he was putting on a college play and got to know a friend of mine, who was in it. She told me that he starts conversations with her just so that he can talk about me. Is that weird? I’ve moved on, seen other people, and haven’t spoken to him properly in months. I didn’t completely block him out of my life either, I just stopped making the effort because I knew we wouldn’t make it as friends. What do I do? Do I get my friend to tell him to move on, do I talk to him personally or should we just let him carry on like this, even after all this time?

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Grim_Hardcastle offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 31 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Why does it bother you so much what he does?

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Dr. Ozy offline Verified User (6 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

uh, why would it be a good idea to give him attention now. that’s what he wants. you will only make the situation worse.

don’t concern yourself with this problem anymore. ask your friend to stop repeating what he says to you. if she doesn’t want to talk about you all the time, then she should be the one telling him “enough already!”

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Bamby offline Verified User (4 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Grim_Hardcastle wrote:
Why does it bother you so much what he does?

I agree, he might not be over you but you have to ask yourself, are you really over him? Truly…

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fire_and_ice offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (31 minutes after post)

This isn’t your problem at all. If your friend doesnt want to listen to him go on, then she can tell him to talk about something else.

Why do you care?

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