Feeling help: Ugh, feeling like total **** tonight :( - Help.com

:( Some people say that we have to have low points in our life in order to appreciate the highs… I’m not saying that they are right or wrong, but it’s my experience I find that situations can change very quickly - we just have to weather the storm.

Thank you. I definetely do believe that. It’s just in times like these I have a hard time believing that it will get better, you know? :\

Hahaha, yeah. I’m actually find myself in a bit of a rut at the moment. It helps to have good friends or family to lean on - or just to focus on the little pleasures that we often take for granted (good food, music, books, or even just a sunny day :) ).

I’m sorry you’re going through stuff too :( You’re right, it does! But in times like this I find it hard to connect with people. The little things make all the difference though and I try to focus on them as much as possible! Just in times like this I find it hard. I feel emotionally drained and can’t seem to connect to anyone or anything…

Well, I guess in that case, with its anonymity, the internet isn’t a bad place to reach out - sometimes it helps to just vent. Do you mind if I ask the nature of your problem?

Anxiety, depression, loneliness… There’s not really one thing. It’s everything building up to create one big problem.
The anxiety is creating the depression and loneliness though, so I guess that’s the root of it all. But the loneliness is bothering me the most at the moment.

Ah, anxiety… that one doesn’t really have an easy fix. I had a problem with anxiety when I was studying in undergrad - it got really bad at one point. It really helps to find the stressor that triggers it. I guess I was lucky that I had a group of good friends to help me through it - I decided to reach out to some old friends that I had in high school and they helped me get my mind off things.

I guess that’s not that helpful in your case. Sometimes you just have to muster every bit strength you have and reach out to those around you - it doesn’t necessarily have to be someone new - because isolation really makes things worse.

Yeah isolation does make things difficult. I had a group of good friends to help me through it before (I’ve dealt with generalized anxiety for 7 years) but the only real friends I have left now have either moved across the country for school or have major things going on in their life and can’t really hang out.

It makes it so hard because I want to go out and meet new people, but I can’t when my anxiety is so bad. The loneliness just keeps getting worse and worse and I feel stuck.

That does make things a bit difficult. Hmmm… I guess things you might try to to meet new people is joining clubs if you’re in high school or university, or volunteering or taking community college classes if you’re older.

My rationale is that you’ll be around people who have similar interests as you and you’ll have that commonality to help form new relationships - with added bonus of learning something new :) You should really push yourself though, in the worst case you’ll still feel uncomfortable and you could just drop out - but at least you would have tried.

Loneliness is awful,and the worst feeling is when you feel unwanted. Nothing hurts more than feeling unwanted. Nothing. It’s really perplexed too.
It’ll get better for you,and if the anxiety still doesn’t go away, trying taking some herbal supplements for it. That’s what I take every now and then and my anxiety has improved tremendously.

i kind of know the feeling life is complicated sometimes it does not even seem the complications are for a purpose. we need things to help us grow as a species. complications is one of those things. i have been thourgh a lot of crap and im still here. i hope this helps