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The old saying is very true, Trust is earned, not given.

For me, talking about trust only displays insecurity; if it’s trully there then both people in the relationship know it is, and it dosent need to be spoken about. The way I see the whole trust thing in a relationship is they’ve chosen me (and I them) for a reason, the door is always open for both people, if they want to cheat they can but they cant expect to be invited back in.

trust, there is always the question - what do you trust exactly?
i can trust you to keep a secret if i know you keep secrets.
i can trust you not to keep a secret, if i know you just can’t.
“dishonest people i can trust to be dishonest, it’s the honest people you should be careful from, you never know when they turn on you.” - some movie

trust, is the belief that a certain thing is indeed as you expect it to be, to the extent that you are willing to take actions based on that expectation (expectation is just a calculated and educated assumption).

i can toss myself backwards to your arms, because i trust you to catch me.
i expect you to do so, because i believe you do not want me to get injured.
another person that i know who likes japes, i can expect him letting me fall just for the laugh. thus i trust the possibility i would not be cached so i wouldn’t throw myself backwards in the first place.

the problems with trust is not that people “betray” it.
rather than that your expectations you had in your mind about that person were wrong.

so, shortly, again, if you ask me,
trust is just a calculated assumption.
and it is subjective to the person that “gives” it.
thus it is given and not earned.
you “earn” it, however, by repeatedly creating the connections that would lead the other person to assume they can predict your behavior and expect you to act like their belief.

point made and i’m just grinding water… so i stop now.