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Hire her family to sing it to her.

She’s your girlfriend and your trying to find ways to ask her? Wow, I think you’ve got more than asking her as a problem.

Dr. Jackson wrote:
She’s your girlfriend and your trying to find ways to ask her? Wow, I think you’ve got more than asking her as a problem.

It’s a traditional thing to ask in a romantic way even when the answer is a foregone conclusion. Same dilly-o with marriage, a couple could be together for a decade, have talked and made general plans to get married, but god help the poor guy that doesn’t propose in a romantic manner. He’ll be digging out of the dog-house for years to come.

Lucky: Buy a crap-ton of balloons, fill most with a strip of paper saying odd things like ‘Nope, not this one, keep trying though!’. In one, using the same strip of paper, declare your love, ask her to prom, and include a reference to the prom-date (you taking her to a fine restaurant/dinner-show?). Then, get her parents to let you in when she’s not home for some time. Fill her room with the balloons. This takes a ridiculously long time if done without assistance, believe me. It can be done, but take my advice and rent a balloon tank or one of the disposable helium tanks from Walmart. They are cheap, and make the balloons soooo much more bearable.

Yeah what Coalesce said… I dated the same girl all through high school and we always knew we were going to go to all the dances together and everything but you still had to make it exciting and new each time. Wait until you get married Doctor J… your wife will expect you to keep things in the bedroom fresh and exciting for 20 years or more. Good luck with that one.

Listen I’m not saying ya just walk up and ask all casually but the way the OP makes it sound I get the impression they’re going for some overly burdening thing. I mean it doesn’t have to be complex, something like a simple flower, a smile, and asking nicely will do. But making it complex, like say writing her a song or something, is just mental.

Asking her is a sweet idea!

How about a super nice dinner date (maybe you could make it for her) and with dessert comes a little card asking her to prom.

What a sweet idea! my bf and I were together for a year and just went together because we assumed we would, sort of an unspoken agreement… but this is way cool! :D

Dr. Jackson wrote:
Listen I’m not saying ya just walk up and ask all casually but the way the OP makes it sound I get the impression they’re going for some overly burdening thing. I mean it doesn’t have to be complex, something like a simple flower, a smile, and asking nicely will do. But making it complex, like say writing her a song or something, is just mental.

True true, a genuine smile and a single flower can have just as dramatic an effect as all the other hoopla. As for me though, I’ve never been terribly ’smooth’ and have found great benefits from a socially vetted demonstration of affection.

If I could flash a scoundrel’s grin and make a girl swoon with the sparkle of my eye, I would. Unfortunately, I look less like Johnny Depp and more like Robson Green… so, I take the route available to me :)

Dr. Jackson wrote:
Listen I’m not saying ya just walk up and ask all casually but the way the OP makes it sound I get the impression they’re going for some overly burdening thing. I mean it doesn’t have to be complex, something like a simple flower, a smile, and asking nicely will do. But making it complex, like say writing her a song or something, is just mental.

making it complex is not a necessity, but it shows how much he cares and how special she is to him, and the effort he puts in shows how dedicated he is, and what a lucky girl his gf is. not everyone understands that…. but the OP does, so he’s definitely set!

Coalesce wrote:

Dr. Jackson wrote:
Listen I’m not saying ya just walk up and ask all casually but the way the OP makes it sound I get the impression they’re going for some overly burdening thing. I mean it doesn’t have to be complex, something like a simple flower, a smile, and asking nicely will do. But making it complex, like say writing her a song or something, is just mental.

True true, a genuine smile and a single flower can have just as dramatic an effect as all the other hoopla. As for me though, I’ve never been terribly ’smooth’ and have found great benefits from a socially vetted demonstration of affection.

If I could flash a scoundrel’s grin and make a girl swoon with the sparkle of my eye, I would. Unfortunately, I look less like Johnny Depp and more like Robson Green… so, I take the route available to me :)

that was cute XD you certainly have the charming attitude… whatever your looks and mannerisms may be