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Only one; volunteer. You have the time, obviously. You need to refocus your thoughts on needing to satisfy your need for companionship to wanting to help others. You remind me of the Billy Joel song “Piano Man”. There is a line in the song that goes, “They’re sharing a drink they call loneliness, but its better than drinking alone.”
Your boyfriend should be spending time with you too but we can’t control what he wants to do. And you should not be laying a guilt trip for wanting to find companionship elsewhere because you come across as being emotionally needy.

You can be alone and comfortable being alone or you can be alone and lonely. So, the second is where you’re at, so you want it be the other way or to go out and meet others.
Nothing is stopping you from heading out alone - bring a personal alarm for safety. It’s a bit scarey at first going out on your own but you can do it! When you walk into the place look around as if you are looking for someone who you’re suppose to meet there (that’s what I’ve done at least and made me feel not so self conscious) then get yourself comfortable and before you know it you will be conversing and making new friends.
I’m so sorry for your losses, X

Do you have any pets?
If you dont, consider getting one.

People’s lives inevitably change when they have kids and often they don’t have the same kind of social lives they used to, at least until the kids get older. Try not to take it personally.

If your friends are too busy to come out, could you go over to them? Take a bottle of wine over one evening when the kids are in bed or something? Or do something with them and the kids one afternoon?

If you are looking for new friends, try joining a group that organises events & activities, such as Spice (this is a UK site). You can go along to things like guided wailks, abseiling, weekends away, with people in the same position as you.

And instead of fighting with your bf every time he wants to go out, have you tried actually telling him how you feel when you are calm and not upset? How about trying to agree to go out with him every other week or something like that, so he still sees his mates, but makes time for you too? It’s not unreasonable to want to have a social life with your bf, he should want that too.

Good luck! x

:) nice, millymoo…X