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how do i act in this situation?

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so i started seeing this guy a bout a month ago. i guess i was too pushy for him , and he freaked out and sort of backed off. he is 35 and seems like he has some relationship phobias. i guess his dad used to beat him up when he was little. we got in a couple fights cuz he didnt seem like he knew what he wanted, i dont know so that ruined it and i ended things cuz ifelt sick with the emotion that he didnt know how he felt. so now we started hanign out again, and i dont know what to do. should i be the initiator or should i sit back and wait for him to talk to me? we still go to the same class together twice a week. i just dont know how to act, if a man will come and get what he wants, or if i should mmake an effort too

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animalstuffing offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

Casually start talking to him, just about how his lifes going. You may want him to ‘chase after you’ to make you feel wanted, or want him to start talking to you to proove he actually wants you in his life, but not everyone has that kindof motivation, especially after being dumped by the person.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

yah i dont know he doesnt seem to be that into it, so i dont really know what to do. he isnt texting me first or anything, weve been hanging out but he said he cant make me ‘any “promises”.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (4 days, 17 hours after post)

Just tell him that you respect that, let him have his distance but still let him knwo you care

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