Love help: okay, i’ve had this guy friend for awhile.

Andy :)

okay, i’ve had this guy friend for awhile.

he moved last year to this town and we got off great. lately, this year, we’ve been doing a lot more together, walking, talking, you know, and i didn’t think any thing of it. then one day, this girl i know comes up to me and says, are you and so-in’so going out? i told, no and asked who had told her. she never answered me and then i got to thinking. we have lots of fun together, we have lots of inside jokes, he can always make me laugh, and he has great grades, (for a guy)

so the question is, should i go for it, i mean i’ve always liked him as more than a friend for the past little while ( before the question) and the question just made me relise how far fetched it isn’t. but there is one problem, i’m 14 and i’m not allowed to date until i’m 16. HELP!!!!!!!

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Mï†z¥-superMODel 3 #
Tullahoma, TN, US | 2 years, 8 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Wait till your 16 and then go for it!! In the meantime keep the friendship going. It will be great to have history to base your relationship on.

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Andy :) 3 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 2 years, 8 months ago (10 minutes after post)

before we get to far, i have a lot of worries, so bear with me.

1) what if someone takes him before i do and
2) when the time comes, what if he isn’t interested.

Andy :) 3 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 2 years, 8 months ago (10 minutes after post)

by the way, i liked the joke with the cat and dog thing.

Mï†z¥-superMODel 3 #
Tullahoma, TN, US | 2 years, 8 months ago (16 minutes after post)

Those are good points but you shouldn’t go against your parents wishes if they don’t think you should date until you’re 16. Maybe you could talk to your parents about what a wonderful guy he is and let them meet him, maybe they will make an exception for you to start dating. Your parents may be understanding about this as long as you are honest with them.

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Mï†z¥-superMODel 3 #
Tullahoma, TN, US | 2 years, 8 months ago (17 minutes after post)

And I am glad you liked the cat/dog thing, I thought it was hilarious.

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Andy :) 3 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 2 years, 8 months ago (18 minutes after post)

okay, those are also good points, but i also have to get the guy to agree with this first. i have to know that he also wants to keep his end of the deal if you know waht i mean.

Mï†z¥-superMODel 3 #
Tullahoma, TN, US | 2 years, 8 months ago (21 minutes after post)

Maybe you should ask him point blank: Do you like me as more than a friend? See what he says and go from there.

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Andy :) 3 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 2 years, 8 months ago (22 minutes after post)

im one of those people that get imperissed if i say something wrong in class. and i have a feeling he won’t make it bad for me, but i don’t want it to be awkward if he doens’t say yes. you get where i’m going?

helpe 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (23 minutes after post)

Don’t date one-on-one yet. Now’s not the time.

You’re 14, just starting puberty; you will go through ENORMOUS physical, mental, and emotional changes over the next few years. There’s absolutely no reason to think you’ll even be interested in the guy next year, let alone when you finish high school or college.

Just enjoy hanging out together with other friends. Dating one-on-one is when you start to think about becoming part of a permanent couple; after a few years, you start to understand what kind of person you’re looking for, and people start thinking of pairing off permanently around age 18-20. Your preferences are going to change so much over the next little while that it will do you no good to date exclusively, and limit the amount of fun you could be having.

Mï†z¥-superMODel 3 #
Tullahoma, TN, US | 2 years, 8 months ago (29 minutes after post)

Yes I see what your saying. I hate getting embarrassed too. Since you two already hang out so much there is very likely a chance he will say yes. Or you could wait for him to ask you…

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Andy :) 3 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 2 years, 8 months ago (5 days, 23 hours after post)

as much as i would like that, i don’t think that that will happen. i do have his email if that is worth anything.