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i dont know what to do about this situation.

i started dating this guy about a month ago and it went all wrong. he didnt seem to know what he wanted. now were trying to kind of fix things, but hes still kinda being wishy washy about everything. we have hung out a couple times, but he said that he couldnt make me any promises. i dont know if i should just stop texting him and let him do the work or what. he did say he still likes me…

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The Sherlockian offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 39 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (4 minutes after post)

My advice is to continue with your life while he keeps debating what he wants for breakfast!

People who do not know what they want = bad news

Tell him you wish him the best and hope he finds someone with whom he really clicks–because that is what you also plan to do!

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Bamby offline Verified User (4 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (4 minutes after post)

Start from the beginning how did it go wrong? What was he like, was it you always texting first and putting in the effort? And how do you feel about him??

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Jimmyk offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (4 minutes after post)

Do you really like him or is this some sort of teenage fling?

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kristaw.2 offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (9 minutes after post)

i really like him im 27 hes 35

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moonlightsupper offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 25 minutes after post)

From previous posts, it seems like this guy has been messing you about for a while. He feels like he can pick you up and drop you when it pleases him.

Thats all because you are allowing it. Show him you are serious about your life and wanting to be in a stable relationship. Force him to think seriously about you and to respect your feelings.
If you don’t, you will remain in the same mess for a long time. Surely you want to avoid that?

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Dr. Ozy offline Verified User (6 years) Long Term User Shouts: 39 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 hours, 27 minutes after post)

don’t wait around for a wishy-washy man. you could be waiting forever. and even then you’d have to accept that his final decision may not be you.

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kristaw.2 offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (17 hours, 46 minutes after post)

whats even worse is that last night we had a talk and he said he didnt have those stronger feelings for me he wished had developed. he said he liked me but would rather be friends. and that he moved on the first time things eneded with us. all after we spent the entire weekend together and things seemed fine. i got mad and said i never wanted to see hima gain and most certainly didnt want to be his friend. from what he said, this has happened to him lots where he has lost interest with girls. i dont know i feel so bad right now… the whole hes not that into you thing. dont even know waht to do.

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moonlightsupper offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (21 hours, 15 minutes after post)

Well at least you now know that its all over. You did the right thing by telling him to sling his hook. At least you showed him you have self-respect and he is not worth being your friend. This guy sounds way too self-centred and a waste of energy so don’t feel like it was some great loss.

Learn from this experience and help yourself move on. Give yourself time and you will forget him and find someone much more worthy of you.

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kristaw.2 offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (23 hours, 28 minutes after post)

thank you….i dont feel like it is. i am over it. i dont want to be friends with him ever again though itll just bring back what he did.

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