boyfriend help: my boyfriend has been in the worst mood for the past week or so. - Help.com

If you are both steamrollered by too much stress, possible suugestion could live apart for a few months/weeks so so you both have time to reflect upon yur relationship.Do you really want a relationship pandering over a man’s temper??Always worrying when the next fight will come? Or, maybe you are both in desperate need of a loliday?Good luck.

If someone in a relation ship is stressed, it tends to spread to the other. I find in stressful situations it help to acknowledge that I have a right to feel the way I do, but I don’t have to let my feelings dictate my actions. Easier said than done, I know. But remining ourselves that we’re going to react emotionally can help keep us from striking out at others to quickly.

oh its not where near that serious Fzellio.

I see that, anon, just actually talking about it with him..it must be done rather skillfully. i don’t want to “yell” at him about what he’s said or done…i just want to discuss it with him..so things can actually change.

Thank you for the advice!

and just to reinforce this, our relationship is not in turmoil..:P

Glad to hear that….so why exactly are you on this website?

Mostly I like to give advice. And sometimes I pipe in with a question or a problem of my own. Sometimes its more serious than other times. But its a nice place to go to when I need to talk to someone..a great venue to get some insight.

No, my relationship isn’t exactly on the rocks. But a relationship IS work..and I needed some advice on how to deal with my boyfriend’s stress and how it is affecting him..as well as my own.

And I don’t exactly personally know anyone in any position to give me such advice..so I come here to find someone wiser than I.

Relationships require clever management. When he is stressed or is flipping over nothing, try to walk away from the situation (and take the pup with you!). Do not respond, and don’t show ANY reaction. This will give him time to calm down and reflect on what he is doing/ saying. Believe me, you keep this up it won’t be long before he starts feeling silly for the way he is acting.

Only confront serious issues when he is calm and you feel in the mood. Don’t let him get away with any nastiness or creulty. Just be diplomatic and keep emotions out of the way.

when my boyfriend is in a terrible mood (he sometimes has bad anxiety because of his parents), i tell him to come with me for a walk, or a drive. we’ll just talk and explore the area, and i’ll let him vent, angrily smoke cigarettes, whatever makes him feel better. at the appropriate times i will tell him what he needs to be told, that i love him, that i believe in him, and that i understand the pressure he feels and why it hurts him. that i understand that sometimes things are hard and i don’t expect him to just “Get over it” or “suck it up”, that i’m glad to listen and that i’m happy he trusts me.

you can’t remove all the stress from your boyfriend’s life, but you can temporarily remove your boyfriend from the stressful situation. my bf and i drive until we feel comfortable and relaxed again, then come home and resume life. it really helps. there’s already enough stress in your lives - let your relationship be a relief from that stress, not another cause of it.