boyfriend help: Boyfriend kissed another girl… It is actually the 2nd time I am posting about this issue. - Help.com

Personally, I wouldn’t want to be with someone who wants to be with someone else.

its not just another chance. If you go back its saying its acceptable to treat you this way, hel c there is no consiquences to his actions and will most likely do it again, i mean its upto you, is what you have worth it? Are their kids involved? Would you be able to trust him now?

Well I said that to him too, I told him to be with her if he wants because at this point I just either want this whole thing to stop or break up with him. But he kept saying he doesn’t like her, it’s all a spur of a moment thing and it feels good to be pursued by a girl… And that he loves me and would do anything to make it up to me. So I don’t know, I don’t think he knows what he wants yet

does “i told you so” apply here?

forget about what he deserves, what do YOU deserve? if you choose to keep a boyfriend who lies, kisses other girls, and tries to sleep with other women when you fight, then you’re getting exactly what you ask for.

make a choice, girlie. we can’t make you respect yourself if you can’t do it on your own.

When things are good they are very good, we connect pretty well and have fun all the time while we hang out. He just has a lot of girl problems that I don’t wanna deal with, and I don’t know if our good time is worth all the hurting I’m going through right now, or it’s stupid to let a good relationship go because of this. He said he was never going to sleep with her, that it was all in his mind that this girl makes him feel liked and confidence… But I give him respect and love too so I don’t know

trust a chronic liar and cheat. now there’s a good idea.

Sounds like he really needs to figure himself out. Ask yourself this: Have you ever kissed someone you don’t like by accident? My advise: Don’t waste your time. While he’s figuring himself out, you’ll be finding someone who respects you enough not to mess around with other girls.

the fundamental foundation of a relationship is trust and respect. your relationship has neither. there is no “good relationship” to throw away here. the only thing you’re holding onto is a sham, a dream, and a bunch of wishful thinking.

no matter what happens, he will NEVER be the boyfriend or the man that you want in your life. i guarantee. test it out if you don’t believe me. but i’m just calling it like it is.

I guess I’m just attached to him since i don’t really have a good family. I feel like if I leave I’m going to be all alone in this world and don’t know if I will find another guy. I know they sound silly but they are legit fears of mine. He on the other hand would probably get another girlfriend by the evening of our break up. I am done though, I am done feeling like this. Oozy is right, he will never be the man I want.

people like him are codependent on others for validation and security. that’s why he’ll plead and cry and beg and grovel when you want to leave. he needs someone to be with him and demonstrate that he’s valuable/desirable. the sad truth of it though, that any woman will do. that’s why he kissed that girl. that’s why he tried to sleep with someone else when you had a fight. female attention is just female attention.

if he your first boyfriend?

Thank you ozy I needed that, a part of me is still hanging on partly because I believe he cries and begs because he loved me. It is kind of a wake up call, any girl would do. And technically he is not my first bf but he is the first one I actually fell in love with.

that’s always hard. after your first love, it feels like you can never get anything with all the good without all the bad. i genuinely thought i’d never get anything as good as my loser ex boyfriend whom i was in love with, even when we broke up. maybe it’s time you focus on yourself for a while. you deserve much more than this.

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When things are good they are very good, we connect pretty well and have fun all the time while we hang out. He just has a lot of girl problems that I don’t wanna deal with, and I don’t know if our good time is worth all the hurting I’m going through right now, or it’s stupid to let a good relationship go because of this. He said he was never going to sleep with her, that it was all in his mind that this girl makes him feel liked and confidence… But I give him respect and love too so I don’t know

A wife beater seldom beats his wife 24/7. A serial cheater seldom cheats 24/7. But that 1 percent of the time that you ARE being beaten or cheated on makes up for the other 99 percent when he’s not doing it.

People have said that Adolf Hitler did some good things–like full employment for the German people and buidling autobahns. But these things completely pale into insignificance when you consider the BAD things that he did.

You are rationalizing things for your boyfriend. This guy doesn’t have a loyal fiber in his entire being. ANY woman that wanted him could have him, if she just flirted with him. You know that.

My question to you is this: why are you settling for someone who is so morally weak? If you stay with this guy, you’ll need an entire condo building just to house all of his “other women.”

Wise up and drop this turkey!

I totally agree with all the other posts. You are condoning the behavior, you’re agreeing to it being ok, you’re accepting his tears in leu of his honesty and trust, and you’re giving him authority over your heart to be trampled on. ENGAGED and KISSING ANOTHER GIRL doesn’t go in the same sentence. Hopefully, you’ll figure it out soon!!!

No, darlin’, he does not get another chance. YOU ARE THE PRIZE…… not him. A guy should shower you with all that you deserve, and you shouldn’t need to wonder about his intentions. THINK of every love story you’ve EVER seen. In ANY of them, does your situation come up? And did any of the women have to plead to make him stay? And weren’t the BEST relationships when the guy did all the work? REMEMBER THE GOLDEN RULE…… WOMEN FALL FASTER, and when a guy falls? MEN FALL HARDER. Classic. Be aloof - get on with your studies, your girlfriends, your work life……. put men out of your thoughts.

I hope you followed your heart and head and made the right decision for you