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Feeling betrayed, lonely, and disappointed by one of my best friends.

This isn’t really a question, I just need to voice this somewhere.
My friend and his long term girlfriend broke up about two months ago, and I’d been trying to help him through it, not too long ago we confessed that we liked each other and after my residential trip to a university i met up with him in town. We kissed and walked around holding hands, he treat me lovely, and we talked about stuff that we’d do later; film nights, food we’d cook together, just stuff.
The day after I met his best friend, who’s from out of town, and we really got on (seemed like a bit of an initiation task) Half way through the day his ex messaged him, and got a bit ratty when he didnt reply asap. The next morning he messaged to say that he wanted to be friends so he could focus on getting over her.
The other night I was at a games night and they were both there, acting coupley. They hugged (probably kissed) jsut outside and i saw it.
Morning after that they announced that they’re together again.

I’m annoyed cos he promised me he wouldn’t mess me around by dumping me and getting back with her. Everyone’s advising him to leave her and get over it, shes messed him around and hurt him a lot.
I hate broken promises, I hate that I gave him my heart naively, thinking they were over. (he told her that they were over while we were together and then changed his mind.)
The guy i was with before this guy treat me like ****, and i thought that i’d found someone who was different. :/

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Hazel_LeSquirrel offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (5 minutes after post)

What is it?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (26 minutes after post)

Ah it’s okay, :)
I know that I’ve made this problem seem worse in my head than it really is, it’s just that it all happened very fast, plus the broken promise, and that I don’t feel comfortable approaching him with anything any more :/

Eventually I’ll get over it, just hurts that he knows exactly what my ex did to hurt me, and ive gotten hurt again. :/

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour after post)

My friend and his long term girlfriend There lies the problem “long term girlfriend”, two months just wasn’t enough. Sometimes people just get caught up in the moment, that’s what it seems like to me (not to belittle what you felt). If you really value your friendship and still want to be friends with him, then tell him that sometimes people get caught up in the moment and you still want to remain friends. It may take some time. If you feel you can’t get over it, than a clean break is the best… no texting, no stalking his facebook, and no letting his happiness make you sad. Please don’t lets other control your happiness, you are young and have a full life a head of you with or without him, or anyone who brings you down. keep your head up!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

I did want to be his friend, the ifrst time i ever talked to him was cos he was going through some problems and i thought he might need someone to talk to, so i approached him out of the blue. I was his friend for a long time, and developed feelings later, i held them in as to not give him too much on his plate.
And, I think I’m starting to get over it, I gave myself a couple of days without speaking to him, saw him a couple of times, but didn’t bother talking as his lass was there. I’m okay being his friend now, jsut giving myself a bit of distance so i dont et too attached again.

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