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Theres This Guy I Have Been Crushing On For Over A Year.

He is so cute and much older (by like 12 years) and a few months ago I bumped into him and he gave me his number. I was in a relationship however and did not call. Now I am single, but for some reason I can not stop thinking about him. I am not sure if this is normal. DO I want him because I never approached him? or do I really need to get to know him? He may now be in a relationship now, but I have to see him one more time (at least to calm myself). I know where he works and worships, how do I do this without apprearing creepy? or should I just date other people? PS I am not ugly, just recently single and looking to date again.

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1 year, 1 month ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

It is completely normal. I know a happily married couple that has a 20 year age gap. It’s fine! What matters is that you’re happy and if you think you will be happy with him then pursue him and be with him. Approach him. Get to know him. If he’s in a relationship, then just be a good friend. So, see him again. Talk to him. If his work is the type of place that you can legitimately have a reason for going there and bumping into him, then go there and bump into him while you’re there for the other things. Or do the same where he worships. It’s not creepy. You obviously really like him and keep thinking about him, so do not date other people unless it turns out he is uninterested in you as more than friends. Go for it! (:

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Anonymous #
1 year, 1 month ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

Age is just a number (like I mentioned with the married couple with 20 years between them) but I’m curious, how old are you and how old is he?

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 week, 2 days after post)

i am 22, he is 34

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1 year, 1 month ago (1 week, 2 days after post)

I’ve known multiple successful relationships with that age gap, actually one couple started seeing each other at the exact same ages as you and him, and they’ve been together and happy for years. :)

As far as what to do next, that’s simple: Ask him out for lunch or coffee/tea.

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