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Hi,
I’m a 32 yrs old gay male from Malaysia who is single and desperately (hate that word but it’s kinda true) looking for a long term relationship. I’ve tried dating a few guys but most of them are only interested to get into my pants (seriously?) I even came to the point where a couplea days ago I wrote to Ellen - yes the Ellen Degeneres to find me a US Marine and gave my myspace page @ http://www.myspace.com/phoenix.ryder (I somehow have a thing for military men). Can anybody tell me why is it so difficult for me to find a date and start a relationship? Seriously, it’s frustating seeing people around me having partners and I’m all single and getting older every single day.
Anonymous
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1 year, 1 month ago (46 minutes after post)
Everyone has trouble finding someone.
Except a few rare people.
Let fate have a swing at it, and if not go to some clubs? :P
@ anonymous - thanks for the reply. just to let you know most of the guys in the clubs (in KL at least) are posers…
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Have you ever tried gay dating sites?
Zirbel wrote:
Have you ever tried gay dating sites?
I have, in fact I rely heavily on the Internet because I don’t get much social time since I work from home and you could say Internet is like my social life. I tried to make friends only but really, they all just wanted sex. It’s hard to find genuine guy who want’s a relationship.
I’m not picky when it comes to look but there are things that I do look for. Last guy I dated is a nice guy. He admitted he has OCD, which don’t bother me much. Just that his feminity kinda a turn off. He’s like in a ‘high-society’ kinda circle which I can deal with but does not impress me. But his reference to himself as a ‘fashionista’ (seriously?) is a big turn off for me.
I really have no ****** clue where to find men. I get a lot of requests for one night stand but I’m more of a monogamous type of dude (but sometimes I do sleep around - hey, I’m single!)
Mrs. Hasta Pianoman wrote:
It’s hard because there aren’t even close to as many gay men as straight men.
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-wHvDIvrRyMo…
well, it’s true… sigh…
guess i have to really wait for Ellen to help me find one :P
I know this probably doesn’t help much but my orchestra teacher is from malaysia.
This account has been deactivated.
thanks, but i wouldn’t really know how an orchestra teacher would react to a hip-hop dude who’s into eminem (music that is) and punk rock. and i’m talking about long-term relationship, but as friends i don’t mind having him as a friend if he doesn’t mind having me as a friend. you can always forward him my profile to him and just let him decide :)
im having this problem too. theres not much you can do except expand your social circle to include more gay men, in which you will find more potential partners. then hopefully it will all work out on its own. :)
saulwilliam wrote:
im having this problem too. theres not much you can do except expand your social circle to include more gay men, in which you will find more potential partners. then hopefully it will all work out on its own. :)
thanks man,
yeah i do. just that:
1. I work from home most of the times sometimes for 48 hrs non stop if project is nearing deadline. Besides, my mom needs constant watch and they kinda quite rely on me at home so kinda difficult to go out.
2. Since I’m at home/work most of the times the Internet is my main communication tool which i did setup some personals pages and profiles (but not facebook, i don’t use facebook). however, most of the men are only interested in O.N.S, hardly anyone wants to have a genuine friendship, at least haven’t found yet.
3. I however do keep my optimisism (is there even such word?) and I do feel things will be better and I will find that person I’m looking for.
i guess, best luck to both of us!
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1 year, 1 month ago (2 days, 6 hours after post)
Haven’t read all the replies but all I can say is work on yourself. Be in love with yourself and you will attract people to you. It’s bedtime where I am and I’m sleepy. I think you will find the ONE in time but don’t worry about not having him now. Having the ONE in your life creates its own problems. Get YOU together. This goes to all you out there.
Get yourselves together and you will find the right partner in time. Focus on making YOU the best you can, i.e. the heathliest, the fittest, most educated, happiness, most confident etc. Then you will be fighting them off. Believe me…
Goodnight all.
Anonymous wrote:
Haven’t read all the replies but all I can say is work on yourself. Be in love with yourself and you will attract people to you. It’s bedtime where I am and I’m sleepy. I think you will find the ONE in time but don’t worry about not having him now. Having the ONE in your life creates its own problems. Get YOU together. This goes to all you out there.
Get yourselves together and you will find the right partner in time. Focus on making YOU the best you can, i.e. the heathliest, the fittest, most educated, happiness, most confident etc. Then you will be fighting them off. Believe me…
Goodnight all.
Thanks for d advice. Sleep well my friend….
you know it’s both sides, being 195 yr old woman
i havn’t been on a date in years, got hit on but EEWWW
Good luck with your search, gave up on mine :)
griffin195 wrote:
you know it’s both sides, being 195 yr old woman
i havn’t been on a date in years, got hit on but EEWWW
Good luck with your search, gave up on mine :)
thanks :)
p/s i’m chattin with a hot sergeant from boston right now ;)
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1 year, 1 month ago (3 days, 2 hours after post)
phoenix.j.ryde wrote:
griffin195 wrote:
you know it’s both sides, being 195 yr old woman
i havn’t been on a date in years, got hit on but EEWWW
Good luck with your search, gave up on mine :)
thanks :)
p/s i’m chattin with a hot sergeant from boston right now ;)
Hope something comes of it. Good luck!
Anonymous wrote:
phoenix.j.ryde wrote:
griffin195 wrote:
you know it’s both sides, being 195 yr old woman
i havn’t been on a date in years, got hit on but EEWWW
Good luck with your search, gave up on mine :)
thanks :)
p/s i’m chattin with a hot sergeant from boston right now ;)
Hope something comes of it. Good luck!
thanks man.
probably not. not putting to much hope. but hey, who know right?
Just want to wish you luck, don’t give up, better to be alone than with the wrong guy.
BuckingFastard (J.N) wrote:
Just want to wish you luck, don’t give up, better to be alone than with the wrong guy.
You are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT! Thanks, and you have good holiday!
phoenix.j.ryde wrote:
BuckingFastard (J.N) wrote:
Just want to wish you luck, don’t give up, better to be alone than with the wrong guy.
You are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT! Thanks, and you have good holiday!
You’re welcome, you seem like a good guy, you’ll find someone, but in the mean time, you can have fun looking ;)
PS, it’s looking like Egypt :)
You should go out clubbing, join clubs, do as much socialising as you possibly can. But first, if you wish, do what you want to do with your life. Enjoy all that it offers. And maybe the one person you were waiting for will come along when you least expect them. Love has a funny way of working sometimes, in that it creeps up when it is least expected. Hope this helps
yeah, love is funny. nah. my clubbing days is over. besides, if it only meant that i’m gonna get laid (which is almost always the case), i’ll pass. i’ve come to the point where i just wanna settle down. but i’m still game, not loosing hope that easily. anyway, thanks man for your advice…
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