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Im trying to figure out what i should do.

me and my guy were together for over three years a month away from being married.. well he got cold feet, a girlfriend three thousand miles away, on alot of booze and on meth. well its been two years and we got back together four months ago…. he moved in with me to get away from meth. he said that he wants to be clean and wants to be with me… i havent been happy for over a month. i love this guy to death. he is a huge part in my life. but we constantly fight and i am tired of feeling depressed… he lives with me barely knows anyone here in town…. idk what to do… all my friends want me to break up with him… i miss living alone but i enjoy him there even if we fight alot. HELP…. Jen

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phoenix.j.ryde offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (6 minutes after post)

jennifer, to me missing living alone itself is not a good enough reason to be with a guy. hey, i’m 32 and are still not a single day that i go by without thinking about having a partner by my side.

withdrawing from substance abuse, especially meth can be difficult. to me, if you think it is worth the fight and deep down you can see the real person in him than by all means. but don’t just base that decision because you are lonely.

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jenniferj32 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (52 minutes after post)

i do but he grew up in an abusive environment and it shows thro. he wont communicate with me. ive been trying to for a couple weeks all he does is yell at me and get me frustrated to were i dont want to try anymore. I truefully dont know if it is worth it…. Its costing me my happiness alot more then i thought it would

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phoenix.j.ryde offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (58 minutes after post)

jenniferj32 wrote:
i do but he grew up in an abusive environment and it shows thro. he wont communicate with me. ive been trying to for a couple weeks all he does is yell at me and get me frustrated to were i dont want to try anymore. I truefully dont know if it is worth it…. Its costing me my happiness alot more then i thought it would

hate to say this, but there would come a time where you need to think of yourself. if you can’t even take care of yourself or make yourself happy, could you do the same for him? if not, i think you get the cue…

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SeanieD200 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

Your happiness- over anything else is perhaps the most important thing in your life. You deserve better. Most guys who say they want to be clean and want to be a better person are just saying those things- because they really have no intention of changing. The fact he takes out all his anger and frustration on you is wrong. No relationship is worth it if you are not happy. As much as you have strong feelings for this guy- you need to put yourself first. I wish you luck.

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jenniferj32 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

thank you, for taking time out of your night to answer me, i really needed it. i am happy with myself and my life… our fighting has what has been making me sad lately. I am normally a happy bubbly person…. this sucks but i think i am going to have to… no matter what i feel in my heart… He’s living with me, so it makes it harder…

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