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Let him come to you if it is meant to be he will come back

Tell him you want him back. What have you got to lose?

I live life - but how?

Anon - in leaving in a few months do I don’t wanto wait. I’d rather half hin in my life for months then have to go away for a while as opposed to waiting even longer :(

Any suggestions on how to make him chase me?

Just tell him! Text him, email him, call him, whatever you are comfortable with, say it was really nice to see you at so & so’s dinner, I really miss you, do you want to give things another try.

Don’t mess around trying to make him chase you - playing games never works and it’s juvenile.

Just tell him how you feel. If he isn’t interested, at least you know you gave it a try and you won’t be thinking ‘if only…’

Tell him it was nice to see him again in an email and see what happens but if you chase him it will not work out
I have been married for 48 years but now I have to play the waiting game as he is divorcing me over nothing

I think showing him how you are standing your ground and you are ok without him would open his eyes to what he lost. Oh the other hand, he may just want to play with you and see how much you want him back, i wouldn’t make it that easy for him. Try to remember why you broke up. Either one of you may have cheated? Boys, and men, find it hard to be loyal to one woman when there’s soo many out there - if you’re divorcing after 48 years, he has another life he’s been living for a while and everyone knows it but you

He is living with our daughter. His sister wants him to live with her. we have 5 kids and 11 grandkids one of them died not long ago. He has come to see me after the trial and he has called me and we have talked. He is coming again to day. He is ill and so am I not many years left. He has destroyed our family. I said in court how he got me to marry him, I fell in love with him but he forced the marriage before I was ready

i’m sorry to hear that all that time invested in love and huge family is now going thru the ringer and being put to test. I know it’s unbelievable. Hopefully you two can enjoy a beautiful quiet day without animosity and pain.

no such luck. He is hurting though the children and grandchildren
I have hurt him, I was having problem with chemical imbalance very ill and I said things . Brain not getting oxygen with the meds doctor was giving me, he knew I was having problem and he didn’t help me. He also knows I have PTSD that he is making worse nothing I can do. The court knows there are problems that he knew about and did nothing to help me. He wants to destroy me mentally. He has so much hatred and he has destroyed our home. I have nothing left no home, no children, no grandchildren. I also fear sleeping for fear the someone will kill me in my sleep

ok, let’s turn this around. You are not to let him or yourself take you to the deep end. It’s always darkest before the storm, the storm comes, but when the dust settles, it’s time to clean up and move on, or rebuild. I would move on. I know you’ve been in the same ole spot for 50 years, but I would not accept defeat, or pain, or anguish. especially from others. I would kill all negativity with kindness and continue to be me. You can’t change anyone’s opinion or attitude, but you can change your own thoughts and direction and just let it go … don’t try to hold on or get back something that only hurts over and over again…