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I am a 40 year old women.

My parents are divorced. My step dad has been in my life since I was two. He remarried a women (5 yr’s ago) that not all the family like but the big thing is when my family ( Me , My husband 16 yr old son and 11 yr.old daughter could not make it for Christmas dinner the did not buy presents for my children. They (the grandchildren), being hurt when their cousins came home with gifts from “Pappa” they asked where theirs were. There were none and I got quite angry. I was very verbal about the situation and will not talk to him (nor his wife). When there is a family get together “Pappa” and “Nanna” tell my children all they have done for the other children. Anyway this is so unfair to my children and if they were mature enough they should see the problem is not with the grandchildren. Help!!

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Tacola321 offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (20 minutes after post)

You might want to sit down and have a conversation with him (alone, no husband not his wife, just you and him). It sounds like you may be a little hurt that the man who has become “dad” to you is now with “another family”. Its understood, as even though your grown you still want that daddy closeness. You must however seperate your own emotions from the “real situation” as you now have children and their feelings are caught up in this situation. He may feel isolated or rejected by you and your family since his marriage and the result may be what you are noticing. Sit down with him and talk it out, be honest. If you find that he is truly an a-hole and is leaving out your children then seek other family members during holidays. If you are okay with this transition your children will be also, but as long as you are angry, upset,etc. your children will follow and thats not healthy for them.

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