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Slaptastic

I need some advice.

I have important exams coming up in a few weeks time and have to practice by working on my communication (its a healthcare degree). We get put into difficult communication scenarios and have to deal with it effectively.

As part of the placements, we get moved around a lot. Theres this guy who is my friend. My only friend here. I relied on him to practice with. There’s another girl who’s asked him to practice with her n he said yes. That was fine, it wasn’t affecting us practising together. But for the past few days weneva i asked about practising he wud say he was busy..

Anyway he asked me if i was pissed off. N rather than being rational i got a bit emotional n almost cried.

I am defos not an emotional person but i hate confrontation. We ended up having a conversation that was more like an argument.

Now we’re not speaking. It’s awkward but now i have no one to practise with. More than that i keep thinking that he ditched me pretty quick n we’ve been frds for a while.

He says i never gave him enough notice to practice, and that sum1 else has usually asked him bythen. He basically made out that i was needy when i wudnt have voiced that i needed help had he not asked. Also the ‘help’ wud hav been mutual.

What i want to know is, am i in the wrong? Whenever we argue it’s always me that feels the need to make up.

Whenever i asked he never said it was due to short notice, i dunno what to think.

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Dr. Jackson 43 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 minutes after post)

Well you seem kinda fixated on him. I mean why not practice with someone else? And what is it you have to practice, maybe we can help you with it.

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Slaptastic 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (6 minutes after post)

i am not a very sociable person n have difficulty getting to know new people. Ur right though, maybe i am placing too much expectation on him. The thing is, i didn’t ask for much i dont think. N isnt it meant to be bros b4 hoes n suchlike? The communicatiin stuff is practical, dont think i can get much help with it.

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Dr. Jackson 43 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (10 minutes after post)

The bro’s pact is pretty tight usually, but while you may think you’re more important, he may not. I’ve got a similar relationship with a friend at school; I’d do anything to help him out with depression and school work, but he never asks or seems to want it. Slightly different, but the fact remains, you just can’t expect people to do as you hope.

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Slaptastic 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (19 minutes after post)

thats what i mean tho. When i said to him that he ditched me pretty quick, he still said he thought we were good friends. But im the type of person who likes to know where they stand. So i got that at least.

Just feel a bit sad, cuz maybe our friendship was a big *** lie all along.

Ur friend will probably ask for help when he wants it. It’s nice that you’re there for him when he does.

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Dr. Jackson 43 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (24 minutes after post)

Did he say “we Were” or were those your words? “Were” would imply he doesn’t think so or that he doesn’t think so anymore. He may just want space for this girl, he could feel that your trying to get between them. IDK, it would require a lot of questions to him lol.

Slaptastic wrote:
Ur friend will probably ask for help when he wants it. It’s nice that you’re there for him when he does.

I’m at the point in my life where losing friends would be a really bad idea, so gotta do what I can.

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Slaptastic 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (30 minutes after post)

yea same. I kinda wish i had kept schtum, but i felt kind of hurt, and since he asked outright i found it difficult to keep hw i felt under wraps.

He’s taken it as a sign that i think it’s his fault i myt not pass my exams. Imade it clear i dont need him to hold my hand lol, but i think he’s gonna stay in a huff n my pride is slightly wounded. So we myt not speak again. Makes me sad cuz am gna be finishing uni soon too.

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