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Does this guy like me?

So here’s the situation: a new restaurant recently opened in my town, and for the first week my coworkers and I were in training with two guys from the corporate office. I was instantly attracted to one in particular (I’ll call him Trevor here). Trevor’s quite a bit older than I, but over this past week I kept catching him looking at me at times when both of our attentions should have been on the training. He kept pulling me aside for special projects or to give me little tips on how to make things run more smoothly. He also kept touching my arms, shoulders, and back–today he was standing behind me and reached to get something, placing his hand on my back once again, and then he let it slide across in a way that didn’t feel casual at all, but instead was lingering. Every time we talked we just stared into each other’s eyes, to the point where I can’t remember what he said, I only remember his eyes. Another thing he kept doing was moving himself to stand closer to me at different times, and teasing me constantly. We’d stand really close, closer than I’d normally stand comfortably with someone I didn’t know that well. And one last thing, when the other trainer was talking to us about cooperation because, “You don’t want your coworkers jumping on top of you,” I caught Trevor quickly glancing at me out of the corner of my eye.

Am I crazy? Is it just because I like him so much that I’m seeing things that aren’t there, or misreading his signals? Any advice is greatly appreciated.

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So here’s the situation: a new restaurant recently opened in my town, and for the first week my coworkers and I were in training with two guys from the corporate office. I was instantly attracted to one in particular (I’ll call him Trevor here). Trevor’s quite a bit older than I and married, but over this past week I kept catching him looking at me at times when both of our attentions should have been on the training. He kept pulling me aside for special projects or to give me little tips on how to make things run more smoothly. He also kept touching my arms, shoulders, and back–today he was standing behind me and reached to get something, placing his hand on my back once again, and then he let it slide across in a way that didn’t feel casual at all, but instead was lingering. Every time we talked we just stared into each other’s eyes, to the point where I can’t remember what he said, I only remember his eyes. Another thing he kept doing was moving himself to stand closer to me at different times, and teasing me constantly. We’d stand really close, closer than I’d normally stand comfortably with someone I didn’t know that well. And one last thing, when the other trainer was talking to us about cooperation because, “You don’t want your coworkers jumping on top of you,” I caught Trevor quickly glancing at me out of the corner of my eye.

Am I crazy? Is it just because I like him so much that I’m seeing things that aren’t there, or misreading his signals? Any advice is greatly appreciated.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (12 minutes after post)

I would back out of that situation this guy is married. You would not want to ruin his marriage by helping him take things to a level where things should not be taken.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

Yeah, stay away from him, he’s married. What’s your deal woman? Are you into stealing people’s men, or are you just into men you want to use you?

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Does this guy like me?

So here’s the situation: a new restaurant recently opened in my town, and for the first week my coworkers and I were in training with two guys from the corporate office. I was instantly attracted to one in particular (I’ll call him Trevor here). Trevor’s quite a bit older than I and married, but over this past week I kept catching him looking at me at times when both of our attentions should have been on the training. He kept pulling me aside for special projects or to give me little tips on how to make things run more smoothly. He also kept touching my arms, shoulders, and back–today he was standing behind me and reached to get something, placing his hand on my back once again, and then he let it slide across in a way that didn’t feel casual at all, but instead was lingering. Every time we talked we just stared into each other’s eyes, to the point where I can’t remember what he said, I only remember his eyes. Another thing he kept doing was moving himself to stand closer to me at different times, and teasing me constantly. We’d stand really close, closer than I’d normally stand comfortably with someone I didn’t know that well. And one last thing, when the other trainer was talking to us about cooperation because, “You don’t want your coworkers jumping on top of you,” I caught Trevor quickly glancing at me out of the corner of my eye.

Am I crazy? Is it just because I like him so much that I’m seeing things that aren’t there, or misreading his signals? Any advice is greatly appreciated.

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