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Whymemem, there is nothing much that can i do to help you.

I could tell you my story of bad health, problems at work (i’m recently fired again … with hardly any prospect for any other job that pays a decent wage), but that wouldn’t do you any good either i guess. You don’t need to hear other misery to add to your own. I’m certainly not going to tell you that every cloud has a silver lining, or things will get better. ****, i hate it when people try to “help” in that way. So you could have guessed - i’m down and out for the count as well.

What i do is simply hang in there, take every beating they present me and just try to enjoy what i have left. A beautiful day with the sun shining, a friendly person in a shop, … that’s all i live for. Not much you say, but i guess that’s all there is in life. Some people have more luck - or are they just better equipped than me to ignore the sh*t life presents you? I don’t know and i don’t have any answers. BTW: thinking a relation and/or children would have changed something, in my case it didn’t. My wife has the “silver cloud” support (i’m allergic to) and my kids just demand more from me than they offer (as yet??). I get “professional help”, but that doesn’t change the way your life is. I offers a way to vent the frustration and anger i have. It helps in that way - maybe it helps me to hang in there. Money is a problem for you, so maybe a tollfree hotline could help (i live in EU, so chances i can help you in that way bvy providing a phonenumber are slim).

Hang in there and enjoy the little things you get to the fullest!

whymemem wrote:
Just my luck. As usual no help coming my way. Screw it. Hopefully I will drown or get sucked into a black hole today. Maybe its already happened. Who cares.

I am in hell, and world moves on as usual.

!oot ouy kcuf lleW.

Thanks for the last line :)

I can see you are very upset and possibly very angry.

This is not about you having or not having luck. I think its all about you as a person, and your approach to life in general. Everything is intertwined in a truly remarkable way and you need to understand this.

I don’t know the details of your lack of success but in general I would ask you to ask yourself whether you apply the key ingredients to success:

-Humility in your attitude with everyone
-Honesty in all you do with people and with work
-Compassion and kindness toward yourself and others
-Commitment toward your work and honouring everyone around you
-Patience while keeping a good attude during the hard times
-Love and forgive all (including your enemies)

Have you practiced these during the past year?

If not, try them- I guarantee you will not fail and you will change the course of your life for good.

Remember, ultimately you get what you give.

Luck is a matter of expectations. You must create some “good luck” for yourself so that you can remember how to expect it.

BTW, these things you think are terrible problems are not that bad. I’ve been totally out of money for over a year, lost an awesome job three years ago, have a dead business, have creditors calling me several times a day, and have been dutifully searching for a job or some business for two years with no success. My luck has been good, though: unexpected expenses appear whenever I get some cash (and not when I don’t), we still have our house and car (for now), and we are all quite healthy and have each other(thank God!) Like you, I’ve been working and struggling since I was 15, only I’m 38 now. Things go well sometimes, and not so well at other times, but either case is never permanent. This is life - to strive, and to try to make a difference.

Just keep pushing through and hold on for the impending change.