relationship help: Socially unfit?

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Socially unfit?

I moved into Netherlands, which is a complete contradiction in every single term from where I belong - some five years ago. Now I am 29, successful career, socially not too awkward, follow the customs and traditions and not really bad looking either but I am unable to make friends here or relationship.

Sometimes I think it is the prejudice of people, that they don’t give you chance enough to open up or show your personality and at times I think no matter how hard I try, I do not belong here. But I like being here, I like my career, I try to act and behave same as them people here but still, something keeps telling me you’ll not be happy here. Someone I knew, being quite rash (or truthful) suggested me to get counseling.

I feel like I am posting a rant, instead of a question. Can someone suggest some ideas from experience?

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (19 minutes after post)

Still, something keeps telling me you’ll not be happy here.

Listen to yourself, Anon. Listen to what your feelings are telling you. They are a much better indicator of what the truth is than anything your intellect can come up with. Where would you really want to be? I’m sure you do have an answer for that question… if you are really honest with yourself.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (23 minutes after post)

though I haven’t been in that particular situation myself, i have learned that in general, when you try to be something you’re not it’s unlikely to work. i would recommend you be your genuine self. i bet there’s a market over there for a sxy exotic type like yourself! counseling will never hurt you as long it’s just talking. i wouldn’t take their drugs unless you have no choice and it sounds like you probably don’t need any of that really. I believe that is best needed when you’re having a problem coping with something and it affects your health or a decision(s) you just can’t make on your own and have no other way to find the answer.

Help me with: i wish everyone wud stfu about chick fil a.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (23 minutes after post)

though I haven’t been in that particular situation myself, i have learned that in general, when you try to be something you’re not it’s unlikely to work. i would recommend you be your genuine self. i bet there’s a market over there for a sxy exotic type like yourself! counseling will never hurt you as long it’s just talking. i wouldn’t take their drugs unless you have no choice and it sounds like you probably don’t need any of that really. I believe that is best needed when you’re having a problem coping with something and it affects your health or a decision(s) you just can’t make on your own and have no other way to find the answer.

Help me with: i wish everyone wud stfu about chick fil a.

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