work help: my gf thinks her dad is having sex with mexican hookers, and is mad at me for not being sensitive to her frustration. - Help.com

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my gf thinks her dad is having sex with mexican hookers, and is mad at me for not being sensitive to her frustration.

We are both academics, and have an understanding of sex work. We know far too well that it isn’t just some grimy sex trade, and that practice has cleaned up and sanitation is a regular practice in the sex trade. My gf is nonetheless disgusted because she “found lube in his swim trunks”. I told her not to jump to conclusions and assume he had sex with a mexican prostitute, and that maybe he had left it in his trunks prior to going to mexico, or maybe he has even been given it in mexico and never chose to use it!

She is now mad at me, and says that I am not sensitive to her thoughts and emotions, when in reality, I have a complete understanding. I just don’t feel her immediate reactions are warranted and she is being slightly ignorant considering how much she knows about sex work, and how she knows her dad wouldn’t have sex with someone without taking the proper precautions.

what are your thoughts on this?

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (29 minutes after post)

i don’t think it’s worth worrying about. your friend is worried about something. you tried to point out something sensible which could alleviate her worry. she decides to take it the wrong way. i’d just wait and let her cool off.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

i don’t think she’s mad because she’s worried if her dad used precautions or any of that.

SHE FOUND HER DAD’S LUBE AND HE MAY BE GOING TO HOOKERS. that’s disturbing and upsetting. eww.

even if she knows all about the workers etc. it’s still disgusting to know your dad does it.

you’re being too rational

but really, what can you say in this situation. i think she’ll be okay with it in a while.

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