Love help: I can’t appreciate life in general, not because I am depressed or angry though.

Canoso

I can’t appreciate life in general, not because I am depressed or angry though.

I just can’t. I try hard! I do try!….I think I try, at least.

Recently I spoke with my best friend near the beach quite late at night. Out of nowhere, he started saying how wonderful the moon was that night. He mentioned how his senses would pick up the harmonious sounds of the waves and how his skin felt the soft caress of the wind.

He truly got me thinking. To me; the moon is but a star that hangs up there. A tree is …well, a big plant and the sea is just..water. My university is clean, but it IS just a big building made of stone and glass. My mother harshly disapproves of me saying that. She says I would see how wonderful it is, if I was going to an ugly school.

I know my university is clean, and I like it. I understand what an undesirable place looks like and I truly do feel at peace within the walls of my university. BUT I don’t find it beautiful…is it that hard to understand?

Those are just two recent examples of my everyday life. Often I have to quiet down on my thoughts about things in general because I know it will sound pretty weird…but doing such a thing on a daily basis..well…I’ll just say it is not desirable.

What is it I am not seeing in ‘things’..that others do see? Or is it they pretend to see? Or they think they see it? Is that something that can be taught?

Any suggestions….leads..or the like?

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phoenix.j.ryde 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (18 minutes after post)

for me, there’s really nothing wrong seeing things in your perspective, it only makes you unique. the hardest part is trying to understand why people are seeing things in their perspective. a simple exercise is to put your palm in between you and friend. both of you will see different parta of the palm. you both can argue that you are seeing different things, which both of you are right. it’s just that, the only way for both of you to see what each of you see is that you both ahave to make an effort to ’switch sides’. make sense? :P

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Canoso 1 #
London, ON, CA | 1 year ago (27 minutes after post)

I do understand your point. However, I am trying to ’switch sides’ barely to understand what is it that they see from the other side but I happen to stumble on a mental block of some sorts. People can’t explain either, they just say “oh it’s jut beautiful man, how come you don’t see it? It just is…”

Strong argument they have there…

Perhaps it is a different way of seeing things which is just fine and you are right. I would still like to understand them though..

Zirbel 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 42 minutes after post)

It sounds like you wouldn’t have access to your feelings. As you would view the world, the life, the people in a rationalistic way only.
My advise is to see a psychotherapist to learn with the help and assistance of her/him how you can dig out your real feelings. They are inside you, but for some reason you suppress them.
When have you wept last time?

Dyal 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 43 minutes after post)

What you like the most in life Canoso ?
When you feel so comfortable and joy last time ?

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Canoso 1 #
London, ON, CA | 1 year ago (2 hours after post)

@Zirbel
Perhaps I do rationalize these things, true. And a lack of access to my feelings…has to be something I need to look into. So perhaps there IS something wrong with me?

Hmm..I did cry insanely maybe 6 months ago. I do feel joy, although it is pretty seldom. How do you believe this relates?

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What I like most in life is love (as in, couple love), the lyrics of some songs pierce right through me. The last time I felt true joy was when I shared time with my best friend. I like profound relationships, whether they are friendship or love.

jnflare #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 20 minutes after post)

Smoke a J then look at the moon and tell me it isn’t beautiful.

But seriously, people are desensitized to things they see on a daily biases.
To appreciate the beauty of something that seems so common you have to look past what you see daily. Think about how complex it is for a planet to exist so close to another? Think about all the variables that have to be spot on for there to be one wave in the ocean.

Sometimes the process is more beautiful than the product it creates.

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MarlinTheFish 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (15 hours, 15 minutes after post)

He truly got me thinking. To me; the moon is but a star that hangs up there. A tree is …well, a big plant and the sea is just..water.

a big plant? just water?!?!

you can’t force it, you can’t control it, you can only take what the moment has to offer.

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Villevanati #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (1 month after post)

I feel the exact same way! I know exactly how you feel. I am currently going through this same issue. People see something and I try my best but I feel like I will never truly appreciate what try are feeling…

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