Feel help: When a guy says all the right things but then you discover he says it to just about every other woman. - Help.com

yes, well only you can decide if it’s time for a change(or not). from my experience we sometimes listen to their excuses(even knowing they are lies) because we want to believe, and even if they are caught in a lie we listen to their promises to change and all that jazz. anything to keep from having your life going upside down. granted i’m not saying not to give anyone a second chance, but if it keeps happening over and over…you both know exactly what you’re doing and are pretty much setting yourself up for heartache.

How do you know he’s not being honest and genuine? So he has told other girls what he has told you. Maybe he has said all of these things to other girls because that is really the way he felt from the heart, and it so happens that he feels the same towards you.

because you really, really, really want him to be the man he isn’t.

also, because you feel like even a lie is better than nothing.

I think that we all need to feel special to the ones that we love.
I mean, I dated a guy a looooong time ago who just insisted on calling me “Katie”.
But my name is Cara…
I asked him WHY and he said that is suited me better than CARA.
I actually went along with it…for about a month…when I discovered that he had been married to a girl named KATIE…and also…every single girl he dated he wanted to call her KATIE…I met them all…Mutual jobs.
How creepy…
So, How is it wrong to want to be someone separate and special?

AlcyONE wrote:

mills wrote:
How do you know he’s not being honest and genuine? So he has told other girls what he has told you. Maybe he has said all of these things to other girls because that is really the way he felt from the heart, and it so happens that he feels the same towards you.

If he says the same old kinds of things to everyone, it would be hard to feel special to him. Not to mention, the guy sounds like a dolt with no imagination or creativity.

The OP hasn’t really given us that much information. What I’ve read thus far seems sort of vague and deficient in details. All things considered, I cannot reasonably dismiss this guy as a liar or someone of questionable veracity. It just wouldn’t be fair to pass that sort of judgment on a person when we know nothing about him except that which the OP has given us - which is not enough, in my opinion.

Both genders do the same thing. I’ve been given lines that women have used on other men.

AlcyONE wrote:

BIG AL ONE wrote:
Both genders do the same thing. I’ve been given lines that women have used on other men.

Oh, and how about the lines men use on each other like, “Oops, I dropped the soap again.” …lol

Uhhhhh. . .I don’t do “Prison Love and Pick Up Lines of an Inmate.”