it’s normal. without your type of female, humanity would never have survived.
you should wait until he has a good job though. kids are wonderful, but they are expensive and can put a strain on an unstable relationship.
Thank you!! I’m also bipolar and have thoughts about this all the time, I will be tuned outa everything!
Anonymous wrote:
I am ready to have a baby!! I just need advice and help. So I don’t do anything bad!!!! Please help!!!!!
If you’re pleading for advice and help, it’s a good sign that you are NOT ready to have a baby.
You don’t have a job
You don’t have any money
You don’t have a house of your own
You still live at home
You aren’t out of school
You can’t even take care of yourself
You don’t have a car or drivers license or the insurance for it
You don’t know what it’s like to pay bills
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The bottom line is you need to grow up. The last thing you need is to bring another baby into this world so everyone else can support you with welfare.
Anonymous-original-poster: Wait until you are at least 18 before you get pregnant.
Wait unitl you can financial take care of yourself before you decide to give birth to and care for another, and make sure that the guy you chose to become the father will be there for you and that baby as well (chose very carefully, single parenthood is very demanding).
Wait till you are older than 25!
BIG AL ONE wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I am ready to have a baby!! I just need advice and help. So I don’t do anything bad!!!! Please help!!!!!
The last thing you need is to bring another baby into this world so everyone else can support you with welfare.
so the military, conglomerate corporations, and Israel (through federal subsidies) can use tax monies for whatever purposes, but an American child born is not entitled to the same funds? dude wtf? not trying to start an argument but the last statement was uncalled for.
verge wrote:
Wait till you are older than 25!
(exactly. . .hopefully the meds will have taken effect by then)
Tacola321 wrote:
BIG AL ONE wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I am ready to have a baby!! I just need advice and help. So I don’t do anything bad!!!! Please help!!!!!
The last thing you need is to bring another baby into this world so everyone else can support you with welfare.
so the military, conglomerate corporations, and Israel (through federal subsidies) can use tax monies for whatever purposes, but an American child born is not entitled to the same funds? dude wtf? not trying to start an argument but the last statement was uncalled for.
Get your $#!t wired strait. We’re not talking about the military. If we were, I would have addressed it. We’re not talking about the conglomeration of vast corporations. If we were I would have addresses it. We’re not talking about federally funding other countries.
Stop comparing apples and ornges.
An American born child is entitled to be born to two responsable working adults - not a 15-year-old bipolar girl who wants a baby like a child who wants a puppy.
What I said was not only called for, but necessary.
And the biggest problem I have with what you have said is we already have too many problems in this country because people are walking around making comparison with an entitlement mentality.
Stop perpetuating it.
Big Al One, I totally agree with you about the horror of the entitlement mentality. I think it is damaging our country. And in general to everyone here - I think bipolar girl asking for help actually meant to write “I am not ready to have a baby”, just the way that she explained everything else made it seem, to me, like she accidentally left out the word not.
verge wrote:
Big Al One, I totally agree with you about the horror of the entitlement mentality. I think it is damaging our country. And in general to everyone here - I think bipolar girl asking for help actually meant to write “I am not ready to have a baby”, just the way that she explained everything else made it seem, to me, like she accidentally left out the word not.
(Re-reading the post.)
(. . .Sigh. . .)
It would be nice to think so. I hope so. Hopefully she will make the right decesions in her life and realize there will come a proper time to have children.
I would like to see both her and her boyfiend finish school, maybe share in some adventures, maybe go to college and get some form of reputable employment.
The desire of children before one is reasonably set can lead to a lifetime of disaster - not just for the parents, but it also lessens the childs potential to achieve success in thier life, too.
BIG AL ONE wrote:
Tacola321 wrote:
BIG AL ONE wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I am ready to have a baby!! I just need advice and help. So I don’t do anything bad!!!! Please help!!!!!
The last thing you need is to bring another baby into this world so everyone else can support you with welfare.
so the military, conglomerate corporations, and Israel (through federal subsidies) can use tax monies for whatever purposes, but an American child born is not entitled to the same funds? dude wtf? not trying to start an argument but the last statement was uncalled for.
Get your $#!t wired strait. We’re not talking about the military. If we were, I would have addressed it. We’re not talking about the conglomeration of vast corporations. If we were I would have addresses it. We’re not talking about federally funding other countries.
Stop comparing apples and ornges.
An American born child is entitled to be born to two responsable working adults - not a 15-year-old bipolar girl who wants a baby like a child who wants a puppy.
What I said was not only called for, but necessary.
And the biggest problem I have with what you have said is we already have too many problems in this country because people are walking around making comparison with an entitlement mentality.
Stop perpetuating it.
Big Al, chillout. All I meant was that your advise is correct (or understood), but attaching your last comment was out of line. Its one thing to give adivse to a child about pregnancy and the reality of finances, its another to attach a statement that applies to more then just her situation.
What you or my opinions are about the welfare system are tied to our personal experiences (subjective and open to interpretation), but should be left off of an help blog. Furthermore, it was unnecessary. Great advise though.
To the person requesting advise, I do apologize for this argument string and will post no further comments relating to this topic :))
I would tell you to first trying living your life. I would tell you that there is so much that you will lose if you dont wait. I would tell you of my own pain of loss because I did not heed others who were more exspereniced> I would ask you to open your eyes to your tommorows and what may be. There is so much out there for you,live your life first before you and your boyfriend decide to create another. Once you do this this thing there is no way to go back. Wait, and gain the prespective that is needed when raising a child. In other terms how would you have felt if you were born to parents that were not much older than you.
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Thank you all!!
I know I need to live my life but I baby sit a lot and I love kids so I always think about this.. Also my parents have foster kids and I love my foster brother and sister so much.. It’s so sweet to see them grow since I was the first born a only child for a very long time.. I think haveing a baby would be a way to make my feel closer to my boyfriend but it won’t Ill most likly start hating him!!
Thanks agian most of you have change my mind a little bit..
Woah, I can’t even believe you were considering it.
Lil.miss.hottie9 wrote:
Thank you all!!
I know I need to live my life but I baby sit a lot and I love kids so I always think about this.. Also my parents have foster kids and I love my foster brother and sister so much.. It’s so sweet to see them grow since I was the first born a only child for a very long time.. I think haveing a baby would be a way to make my feel closer to my boyfriend but it won’t Ill most likly start hating him!!
Thanks agian most of you have change my mind a little bit..
(Whew!)
Well think about this. Your parents have foster kids. I think you already know, but I will ask you this anyway - why are those foster kids in foster homes? I know, there are many reasons. And among many of those reasons is because children are having children they can’t take care of. . .
Think about it. There’s another girl out there, your age and much like you. She is sexually active and in the process of time, she got pregnet. She has a baby that she can’t take care of, she has parents that can’t take care of her (much less her baby), so it (the baby) becomes fostered out. How sad! All she had to do was wait and grow.
Lil Miss, life is a challenge, even to simply take care of yourself. Time does not drag it’s heels - it’s not going to take forever to find out what I speak of is correct. And you WILL be glad for the wise decesions you made in early life.
That’s a promise.
The way to get closer to your boyfriend is just live life. Simple and clean. Go to the movies, go to the dances, go out picnicking or for a swim or a drive or a walk. These things you share will help bring you both together.
Life is a gift - as children and babies are. But some gifts can be a blessing or a curse. Simple as that. And you both don’t want to be giving each other something that, in short due time, will cause you both to hate each other. It’s a good thing that you caught that. See. You’re smarter than that.
Choose wisely.
Wow big al you made me cry that was very inspiring!! (: thank you.
Ik I was stupid to even think this and for everyone to know I am single now.. Because my EX boyfriend couldn’t handle any emotions.. So now I have no problem.. I’m going back to what I love (dance)! I quit it for him and now that I think of it there was no point I should do what I want to and be what I want!!! NO one can change me, but me!
Great! Don’t procreate until you are 25.
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