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I am constantly in fear of loosing everything.

I run a good business that is growing, but cash it tight and too tight sometimes, just as I think I have a load of money bills flood in all at the same time. I never seem to get over the worry part of that, hate owing money to people. Then i fear what happens if I loose my business, we could not afford to live how we do (not luxurious but ‘normal’), my wife is a teacher but her money would not pay for everything. Looking into thing if it did happen I would get nothing in terms of benefits as we have equity in the house. No family or savings to fall back on and feel very exposed. I know people living in nice houses doing well, some of them working, some milking benefits, not worrying like I do. Ultimately I would live in a box but I dont want to let my children down. Nothing actually happening yet, but I never seem to get anywhere or really make much to have time to relax. Plus I work all hours so dont have fun realyl doing anything I enjoy. Not looking forward to getting old and having nothing to live on - rather depressing! I could pack it in and go and get a job elsewhere for more money but I employ people ad my business partner had put a lot of money in so feel obligated. Plus it may go well one day! 10 steps forward 9.9999999 steps back. My biggest fear is looking back at a life that I could have lived, instead of working and worrying like hell for little personal or financial reward. 35 now, bee doing this business thing now for 11 years, mid life crisis anyone?

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (12 minutes after post)

In what field is your business?

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Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (14 minutes after post)

The business isgrowing. So focus on growth.

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terrykno offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (28 minutes after post)

We wholesale our own products. We have grown, started with 2, now 10 people and a warehouse. Just seems like I personally never get anywhere and with grown comes responsibility. If your on your own and pack it in then its ok, when the people around you rely on the wage as well it multiplies the pressure. Theres been a few big projects / customers that have either failed terribly or not been the great success we were hoping for. Everyone is very good at what they do, the products are good, we make a good margin, I should be proud - would be nice to have a personal and business buffer. I always seem to be on the edge of it working all the time no matter how hard I try.

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Angeleen offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

This is when you doubt like that that you need someone to relay on and mostly reassure you. Your wife or someone else. You mustn’t give her your worries, but just talk to her about your fears and all. I totally understand why you’re afraid and somewhere it is a good thing, because at least you’re aware and pay attention if something goes wrong, you’ll be ready. But every now and then, look around. Drink it in. It might all be gone tomorrow (hahaha, sorry, these last three sentences are from Grey’s Anatomy, but they are on my wall since I find them so true). You must find your balance between thinking about the future, about your kids growing up, and yourself, right here, right now, trying to be happy.
Sorry if I made mistakes, I’m french. And I hope it helped a bit.

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Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 hours, 49 minutes after post)

Maybe it all comes down to you make more money and others get a little less. And be very carefull on any big projects or customers. I hope this helps.

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