I’ve known my Boyfriend for 2 years.
Since my break up with my last BF we’ve been talking for about 8 months. Although he liked me I never really though about him like that because all that time I was really in love with my ex still and wanted him back. He used to talk to me about it and I wanted him to advise me. I found out recently he was doing it through gritted teeth but nonetheless I didn’t see him like that. It’s funny because I before I met my ex I did like him and we used to talk but also as I’ve found out recently he said that he stopped talking to me because he could see where it was going and he didn’t want that at the time. (Between you and me, it wasn’t going anywhere. We spoke like people do on facebook, there wasn’t even any flirting) So we’ve known each other for a while as I said and we’re now dating BUT I don’t feel strong feelings for him like I should after knowing him for so long. Although it’s only been 2 weeks of dating, the time we’ve spent recently before dating should have made me like him a lot more than I do. Usually by this stage (and I don’t mean 2 weeks, I mean months of talking etc) I would feel a lot more than I do. Initially he did make me feel pressured because I didn’t feel ready to get back into a relationship because I guess I’m scared of being hurt. He would tell me that he was going to fight for us and although I told him I wasn’t ready he said things which due to bad memory I can’t remember but they made me feel like I should give him a chance because he really liked me and he is a good guy. I can vouch for that. Although their always good at the start. I’m sure in months I’ll be cussing him lol. (touch wood) I with him and it’s fun and I like his company but upon talking to my friend today she asked me whether or not I loved him and I responded with the whole it’s only been 2 weeks thing. She pointed out the fact that it’s possible to fall for someone before you officially start dating and this worries me. I’m nowhere near falling in love with him or at least I don’t think I am. The part of me that’s not too worried is the part that remembers my past relationships and the fact that I fell so quickly and that perhaps it’s best this way. Things going slowly. I am attracted to him so I guess it’s a start. I guess I want help with figuring out whether this is normal. Thanks Guys! :D
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