Feel help: I’m really bad at relationships. - Help.com

Improve your self-esteem first of all!
 
“How to increase your self-esteem”:
http://www.mind.org.uk/help/diagnoses…

“Six Behaviors that Increase Self-Esteem”:
http://www.changeforgood.com/articles…

“Boost your self-image with these 5 steps”:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/self…

“Self Esteem Affirmations” · Tutorial:
http://www.wiziq.com/tutorial/63505-S…

“Developing Self Confidence”:
http://www.wiziq.com/tutorial/28204-D…

Part of it is learning how to forgive yourself for screwing up in the past. You did wrong, but what’s happend has happened, nothing you can change about it. Instead, in the future you may need to be more willing to be the one who ends up hurt. If you end something before it can get painful, you can easily be ending a relationship that was perfectly healthy. In a relationship, you give someone the ability to hurt them and trust them not to. It’s just important that you trust them not to hurt you as it is that they trust you not to hurt them.

hello.
I have just been on the other end of your dilemma. I was the one that just got broke up with because he was too scared to be in a relationship for fear of getting hurt. And right now, I am hating on him. But this isn’t about me, its about you. So, lets start with your character. You have it. You know you do. You just tuck it aside when **** gets serious so you don’t get hurt. Everything you do in life is character building, but you seem to be making the same mistakes again and again, and expecting a different result- which some say is a sign of a crazy person. You are not crazy, just afraid. And we all get scared. You are not special there. The other people that write to you here are right with what they say. But if you are truly ready to be in a relationship, and you have found someone worth fighting for (even if it means fighting with yourself) then you will do it. If you really care about someone, you will let them know. I recommend therapy. We’ve all got issues and baggage we carry from our childhood into adulthood, and it’s no big deal. Go to your GP and ask for a recommendation. Be brave for once - now THAT is character building!
good luck
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i love you haha, but no seriously thank you ^ that was extremely helpful!!

alcyONE: haha wow! yeah, I’ve definitely been in that situation before without realizing it.

hahahah!! sorry, my fault haha

YES! ;) but definitively no where near old

The more you get involved (not necessarily romantically) with people, the more you will learn about them and yourself. That in itself is character building and will enable you to open up and start to make wiser decisions as to who is worthy of being trusted and who is not.

You might think you are protecting yourself with your current attitude but you are actually hurting yourself. To you it would seem that relationships are all about you and you forget another human equally worthy of love, care and respect is involved. This kind of attitude only sets you up for failure and self-condemnation; which is where you are now.

A good guide line is “treat people as you wish to be treated”… thats not to say everyone you meet will be kind to you but you will significantly increase your chances of suceeding in future relationships.