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Well, both of mine are gone. All I can say, is: It’s worse looking forward to it than looking back. So, what you should be concerned with is making the best time you have with them while you have them. And when the time come for them to be with the Lord, you will have fewer regrets and little sadness.

Are sacrifices part of the picture

BIG AL ONE wrote:
Well, both of mine are gone. All I can say, is: It’s worse looking forward to it than looking back. So, what you should be concerned with is making the best time you have with them while you have them. And when the time come for them to be with the Lord, you will have fewer regrets and little sadness.

Anonymous wrote:
Are sacrifices part of the picture

Such as?

I just moved close to my parents, but I am unhappy in this new town because theres nothing for me here… I want to leave but am staying because I feel my Mom would want me closer to her.. Its hard Al

Anonymous wrote:
I just moved close to my parents, but I am unhappy in this new town because theres nothing for me here… I want to leave but am staying because I feel my Mom would want me closer to her.. Its hard Al

So, let’s take a look at a few things:
You say you “feel” you mom wants you to be closer to her. Okay, put all feelings away - is this true? Does she want that, did she say so?

She doesnt have to say it..I feel it

Anonymous wrote:
She doesnt have to say it..I feel it

I thought this would be the case.
Well, you do have some workable options. You could move to a more tolerable near-by town - one that you can tolerate. Or will you be living with her?

No I wont live with her..I just miss my travels…But sometimes a man has to set new priorities..

BIG AL ONE wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
She doesnt have to say it..I feel it

I thought this would be the case.
Well, you do have some workable options. You could move to a more tolerable near-by town - one that you can tolerate. Or will you be living with her?

Anonymous wrote:
No I wont live with her..I just miss my travels…But sometimes a man has to set new priorities.

Here is my advice. First, you must understand that you are entering territory that I have already been through. I’ve got the hat, the T-Shirt and Certificate. I’m an only child to a mother who I took care of for better than 20 years. If I had it to do all over again, I would do some things differently.
You have to work on your guilt problems. Feeling what you think your mother would want is too obscure. I’ve been through this. You need absolutes.
So much muck to sort thru, I know - where does one start?
Live your life in the normal sense. You won’t ignore your mom because you love her. But, take it from someone who played the game - go on with your life.
Nut-shell blunt, there’s no other way to put it.
You must understand that what you feel will be no different living your life or having lived your life for her.