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why do i say i hate fighting with my husband and than jump right into a fight?
Came home tired - he was in an ok mood but cussing alot - that’s how he talks thou- drives me crazy and we have a 4 year old. So i started demanding he stop cussing. His mood quickly became hostile. Just verbally and emotionally. He would never physically hurt us. And he just went off about how he gets nothing. Which is soo not true. We are (me, him and our daughter) all fine - we have tons and we get nothing. all together. I fought back - what? you get nothing? poor u. And then tried to just ignore him. But his mood was sour for hours. I went to the store and came home - my daughter was crying and he had broken my hair brush by throwing it. I just knew he must of been yelling and scaring the hell out of her. SO NOW I GOT MAD. so we both yelled. He went to the guest bedroom. which is good. go away - we don’t need to be fighting in front of our daughter. Now i feel horrible. I shouldn’t have gone to the store with him in that mood. What do i do? I want to talk with him. But I don’ t want to cause us to stay in a bad fighting place. We have been fine for a long time. But i just want him to know he shouldn’t act like that. Grow up. … thats what i was yelling at him. (how grown of me) I know it takes 2 to fight. My parents fought - its in my blood - but at least i can see that right? What do you think - Will a walk away rule in my house work? If you are angry - Say i’m angry and i’m going to walk away - and everyone needs to leave you alone and walk away too? ideas. are we horrible parents? & my husband wants another child. I am soo not ready - so that is not happening. I want things like this worked out before we add more. Thank you for reading - if you did - thank you Help.com for being here.
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