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I have this boyfriend…

. who says he loves me… but he always blames stuff on me… he tells me we need quit fighting but he starts a lot of fights. And I love him so I take the blame so we’ll stop fighting but he keeps on going about how wrong I was… he’s my first boyfriend, and I know this looks like another teenage girl with guy problems… and it is… but I have no one else to talk to… he wont let me talk to friends or family. I just need help…

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kiramcdoohea offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (22 minutes after post)

Im sorry you’re having troubles. Are you sure you wanna stick with this guy?

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (25 minutes after post)

Drop him. I know you’re unsure about it because this is your first, but trust me, this is not a guy you want to continue dating. You need to be with someone who accepts his responsibilities and makes you feel good about yourself. Relationships are about giving, not taking.

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Sparrowhawk offline Verified User (5 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 43 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
Drop him. I know you’re unsure about it because this is your first, but trust me, this is not a guy you want to continue dating. You need to be with someone who accepts his responsibilities and makes you feel good about yourself. Relationships are about giving, not taking.

Agreed. And why won’t he let you talk to your friends or family?

End the relationship. Wait to find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated - with respect and love.

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moonlightsupper offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (5 hours, 29 minutes after post)

He is controlling you and is getting a ‘kick’ out it- especially when you come back submissive.

If you stop and put emotions and “love” aside, you know this relationship has no future whatsover. The signs are bad and you need to walk out with dignity before you end up emotionally very hurt.

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linuxya offline Verified User (6 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (9 hours, 25 minutes after post)

“And I love him so I take the blame”

That not love. That’s dependency. You are so afraid of losing your first boyfriend you’ll do anything to keep him.

This is so unhealthy for both of you.

Time to end this.

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