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I can’t do anything to get girls to like me.
I have never had a girlfriend or sex and i’m almost 20. I go to a very large university and I was hoping that would solve my problems with girls in high school but sadly it hasn’t. I am a very social and upbeat guy in public and easily make friendships with guys. I am tall and skinny but I play a lot of basketball so I am in shape, i’m not great looking but i’m not ugly either. I easily can make girls laugh and befriend them but to get anything past that has never worked. I have been trying to dress nicer and clean up my language when i’m around girls but it has not changed the ultimate result. I am putting myself through college so I don’t have the money to join a frat and half of the girls on campus are only interested in you if you have greek letter on your chest. I am far past the point in which it is cute to be inexperienced with girls. I also have been lying to all my college friends that I have had sex etc. I didn’t want to lie for as long as I have been but I thought things would be different at college so I wouldn’t have to lie for long. I haven’t had any helpful relationship advice sense high school so I don’t even know what to fix these days. All my friends have had more than one girlfriend and i’m getting tired of hearing it’s going to work out next time (next time has going on for the past 3 years). If I don’t start conversation with girls they won’t with me and it’s just getting hard to keep my head up after years of rejection and disappointment. I try to learn form my mistakes as much as I can but it’s not enough. It just sucks seeing girls with ****** guys and wondering what are they doing differently than me. If anyone has any positive feedback or suggestions that would be great.
I do shower daily lol, and stopped being too nice to girls in high school. As far friends that are girls I have very few, but I grew up with in a all girl house with my mom, aunt, and two little sisters, aka I always put the seat down. I try be myself but lately I have admit I put on a overconfidence front around girls to try to hide my actual little confidence. In my experiences if girls catch a hint of weakness they are not interested. Basically any time I show emotion for a girl she is not interested. I have made the mistake of coming on too strong and I have also made the mistake of not being aggressive enough when I should have.
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