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Feeling a little cut :s

Ive known this girl since our first year at school…just about 30 now so a pretty long time!
Ive always known her to be a little overly narcissistic “its all about me” being a regular slogan she uses and to be honest I dont bother seeking support from her because I know she will be too tored, too busy, have very important parties she cant be late for and I often get that late night or early call of shame to pick her up, I ask no questions.
So just to clarify, I’m a single mum of 2 pubescent girls, still rebuilding and just starting to show signs of life after many years in a torrid family affair, I work part time but im so proud of my job that I give it 200% hard labor.
My friend has been in full time work since she was 14, without any responsibilities she managed to pay buy her own unit among the frequent holidays and shopping sprees, she has worked and earned these quite fairly I believed…
Now I wonder how many people have basically been put to work by her?
Apart from the little favors I do for her ive granted her the larger ones when she has asked as well. She has a hoarding problem, she buys things that look cool them leaves them in their bags around the house, the first clean out I did for her I found things with receipts dating back to when she bought the house!
Now…just 2 weeks before she heads off on her grand overseas tour, she decides she would like to move in with her boyfriend who she doesnt even trust since the whole time theyve been dating their status was ‘open’ and he quite activly lived up to it. She calls me in, for one evening, she knows the last 6 months have been busy let alone the week or day, but I tell her I’ll make the evening clear…we dont get through her hoards of packing quick enough and her job is so important (see I work part time, its not like raising two kids and maintaning a real house and yard take work as well) and she basically made me feel guilty for even taking a break…3 days later! She did hardly a thing while I packed, detail cleaned her house AND carpets, during the whole time sneaking out when I could so I could secure the sale of a family car I found and desperatly need given mine was only a temporary buy and has gone beyond being worth fixing, is unreliable and high risk to brake down in comming weeks, making things worse having a chronic asthmatic daughter that I can get to hospital quicker than an ambulance can, if my car will start…
thats only the start of my frustrations but I think ive made my point anyway, Ive always known but I cant believe shes pulled this on me, then offered me help and left me in the dark, didnt do things she said she would blah blah and now im fully without a car because I trusted her and shes not even in the country now and I wonder why I work so hard for her

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Same_Ol'_Dragon_Lady offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (33 minutes after post)

Your friend is an emotional vampire, and she probably has OCD, too.

Don’t let her guilt you into anything at all. If you want to help, go ahead, but if not, don’t let her make you feel obligated.

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Siren offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 38 minutes after post)

youre lettting her walk all over you. why dont you be a little selfish back, even if its not in your nature. you dont deserve to be treated like that

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