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I’m suffering from a broken heart

I’m currently living abroard as part of my studies, and while I was in Spain I met the most wonderful man I have ever met. He wanted me to teach him english while he helped me with my spanish and so our friendship grew through that. We met up together frequently; he showed me new places around the city and I realised that he was perfect for me. I’d been messed around in the past by people, but this guy was such a good, intelligent, kind, funny person. by December time we’d kissed and it had become very aparent that we liked eachother. Unfortunately, I had to move country in January to a very strange city where i don’t have many friends. I was very sad, but I made plans to return in the summer to work, and although I was struggling in this new place I clung onto the fact that I would be returning to Spain in the summer. As things got worse I decided I needed to go back to spain as a break and to see my friends. i got so excited to go and when i got there i arranged to meet up with this guy, whom I had been emailing over the last month. He took me to a new bar where his friend worked and I was having such a lovely time until out of the blue a woman came in and sat next to us. He imediately put his arms around her and I noticed sooner or later that they were all over eachother and that must have been his girlfriend. I kept cool and was polite and we carried on chatting after she left. I know i have no right to be angry at him because I’ve been gone for so long but inside it hurts so much. I hate where I’m living at the moment, but te holiday that was suppost to cheer me up is just making it harder. I still love him and I still want to be his friends because he’s helped me so much and he is genuinely lovely. I’m still supposed to be going back, but I don’t know how or what will happen if I do. I’m still in love with him, and although I wish no heart ache to the girlfirend, I want him!

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

hmmm…unless you actually start living in spain again, i think it would be pointless to ask him anything…im sorry…i am sure once you try making looking at your new city as your new home, you will be happier there…it seems like you had your heart in spain until now….give the new place a chance!
:)

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talula offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 37 minutes after post)

Spaniards kiss alot! Maybe he didn’t feel the same way about the kissing as you did. If he did I think it would have been pretty heartless of him to be all over this girl in front of you. Maybe he doesn’t know how you truly felt..could be a cultural thing. I would just ask him about the situation and get his true feelings. Broken hearts are really difficult and I feel for you. It’s a little confusing I would say.

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (8 hours, 26 minutes after post)

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (10 hours, 9 minutes after post)

Thank you guys! I know I’m over reacting abit, but I’ve had a truly awful time here so far and I used going back to Spain as my little aim in my head. I’m even planning on going back after my degree. I’m just really angry and upset with myself.I hate the fact that i thought that i wouldn’t be 2nd best with this one.

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