Family help: Whats so wrong with me :’( ? - Help.com

Well. . .what ever the problem is, it’s her problem, not yours.
It hurts to hear such things comming from parents but it sometimes happens.
Thicken your hide a little and let it bounce.
You’re doing fine - keep up the good work.

Cool down!
Even parents can rage some times. And perhaps it has really nothing to do with you …

No of course not. Remember she said all these horrid things about you while she is angry and in an abnormal emotional state. You have to understand she is most likely feeling angry over something totally unrelated to you and she can not do anything about it. This loss of control is fueling her wrath. Consequently, she finds any easy target (you, your dad) to unleash that anger and the more nasty the words are, unfortunately, the better she will momentarily feel as its a ‘release’ for her. Of course this all does not make it right, I am just explaining so you understand and not believe the non-sense you heard.

The other thing to remember is that I guarantee you she will (if not already) bitterly regret what she said. I gather she doesn’t always say such things to you so it will hit her hard when she calms down and realises what she said.

I know its hurtful to hear you own mom say things like that to you but don’t take any of it to heart. Her angry words are meaningless. You know yourself, you are a good person, an achiever with huge potential for your life. Always remember that!

I hope she will come round and everything is OK soon. (((Hug)))

You are none of those things, and she knows it. She lost her cool, and she said horrible things. It wasn’t right, and it’s not fair, but she didn’t mean them.

Don’t worry my mum does the same to me, it gets me down alot and I feel like I am, Yeah I ****** up my college life but i got myself a job, I payign for my way in life, good mates but yeaah pretty much the same my mum says to me, Just ingore it its not just you . She don’t mean it trust, you thin your lifes going alright and you got all that thats good! some people have alot less trust me

Most likely, your Moms were verbally abused as children, and when they get frustrated and angry they treat you exactly the way they were treated. That’s the cycle of abuse: what children grow up with is what they believe is the right way to do things. And even when they get grown and know better, that is still what the brain turns too when it becomes overloaded.

Forgive her if you can. And seek some counseling if you are able so that you won’t be likely to continue the cycle with your own children.

It’s okay to be upset, that was really harsh and no-one wants to hear something like that from their mother of all people. There’s nothing wrong with you; she’s angry at herself and she’s taking it out on you. She’s picking fights with everybody - even your little niece. C’mon, who does that unless there’s something else going on? It’s her problem, she needs to sort it out; maybe suggest she try counselling?. Dont pay any mind to what she said because it only came from a place of anger. Try talking to her about it when she’s calm. I’m sorry you were upset, I hope you’re feeling better!