man help: In divorce the woman loses everything and the man gets rich - Help.com

Not always. Whoever hires the better lawyer tends to end up best. Do you need help with something, or just venting?

thats a load of ****!!!!!

divorce settlements usually tend to favor the wife, actually.

From http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/08…
Recently divorced women and their children who typically lived with them were more financially strained compared with others, having higher poverty rates, lower incomes and greater use of public assistance despite higher rates of participation in the labor force.

_Roughly 1.1 million children, or 1.5 percent of all children, lived in 2009 in the home of a parent who divorced in the previous year.

_Delaware and Wyoming ranked at the top for states with more widowers (5.4 per 1,000 men), while Hawaii had the most widows (10.3 per 1,000 women).

The census analysis is based on 2009 data from the American Community Survey, which sampled 3 million households. It is the first to describe detailed information on marriages and divorces from this survey after the National Center for Health Statistics stopped collecting such data in 1996.

Mass has new alimony laws that favors the men. My ex never let me work outside the home. His mother worked and he wanted her home. So when we married he demanded that I be a stay at home wife and mom. I will get only social security nothing more until he dies or comes back to me. This is after he retires from his present job which I helped with from home. My dad was going to pay for my education like he was paying for his. My ex told my DAd that over his dead body would I go back to college.
My ex has been breaking into my car and my home and stealing and taking things. This man would not even let my dad buy me a crib for the baby I was carrying. We had an old crib my Great Aunt let us have that was iron. Those cribs are not save for a baby to sleep in. This whole divorce was over control my ex wants to control me and if you don’t know that is abuse big time. What I was studing in college would have allowed me to earn the same as him or more I was going to be a CPA. I wanted to be an aditor. I like that kind of work and it was what I did for him with his jobs all of our marriage
I just need to vent. I am old, I will never be able to get a job no one wants you once your almost 70. I am also handicapped. My life is over. He has destroyed our home and every thing in it things that belong to my Dad who died 45 years ago who I loved , I was the only one of his children that doesn’t have a college degree

PS we are now divorced just before my birthday

You have my sympathy and I hope you find your safe and stable life. It may indeed be difficult for you to get a job, but there is nothing preventing you from applying for grants to go to college now. You are free of the controlling ex; it’s never too late to strive toward your dreams.

Contact your local women’s resource or abuse recovery organization. They will provide you with the moral support you will need to recover. They can probably help you look for work too, if you want that.

Is the cat still trying to sit on the baby? can’t go back to school Have problems from being hit by a car, went through the windshield with my head not good.
Let me know about the cat. mine liked to sleep in the crib with the baby but not on the baby because she would pull their fur

Oh, I’m sorry that your injury has left you with head problems. You can still read and study, even if you can’t achieve that degree. At this point in your life, keeping your mind active and healthy is a lot more important than preparing for a career, which is what a degree really is. And definitely do still try to find a women’s abuse recovery organization in your community. Maybe find some volunteer work that you will enjoy so that you are out and around people and using your skills to benefit your community.

The cat adores the baby, and wants to be near her whenever she isn’t moving. When the baby is moving, the cat stays just out of her reach because she tends to pull ears, fur, whiskers, and tail if I don’t stop her fast enough. Since the weather is getting nice, though, I made the cat a cushioned seat on the windowsill with the window open, and that is more appealing to her than a sleeping warm baby.

Anonymous wrote:
My ex has been breaking into my car and my home and stealing and taking things.

Call the police.

Anonymous wrote:
Mass has new alimony laws that favors the men.

Surely this doesn’t mean that you will get nothing. Also, please call upon your siblings for help.

Anonymous wrote:
I will get only social security nothing more until he dies or comes back to me.

1) Wait! You don’t want him back, do you?!

2) http://www.massalimonyreform.org/

from the Wall Street Journal article, left sidebar:

“Judges can still award indefinite alimony for long-term marriages. And in the case of short marriages, a judge can order “reimbursement alimony” if one spouse, for instance, put the other through school.”

You’ll want to be getting a good lawyer.

answer do I want him YES man I have sleep with for 47 years. He is acting like he is mental ill but no one wants to prove it Lawyer want the money. things he has done to the house he is acting crazy even the police think so.
Police on speed dial, small town know most of them grew up here.
He has done over $100,000 of damage to the house and furniture he wants me out of the house, wants me to move far away so He can have our children and grandchildren.
Have lawyer fees to pay I still don’t know how much.
After 48 years I should be getting life alimony. Judges don’t like it that I didn’t work. Every time I took a job he had a fit, but he told everyone how great it was that I was working ever one that is but me. If he is ill I would take him back but if I find out there is another woman no way
He has told my counselor he might want to come back if he gets bored

Anonymous wrote:
He has told my counselor he might want to come back if he gets bored

Anonymous wrote:
answer do I want him YES man I have sleep with for 47 years.

Something is very wrong here. He might come back if he gets “bored” and you would take him back?!