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Plasmarox

Hi all.

Having a bit of a weird experience at the moment, not quite sure what to make of it.

A few weeks ago I bumped into an to old schoolfriend, and we go for a drinks,nothing exceissive. So in the ask, I ask her to the movies to see the new Avengers film. She’d been hinting that she wanted to see it, so it seemed obviously to me.

Anyway, that was last week. Since then she’s been texting me like a boss, flirting and whatnot, and then eventually texts me we should get Facebook married. I’m kinda thinking this is a bit over to the top, since I hadn’t seen for around 4days. But sure enough, I agree and then she tells me she’s in love with me, which is a little weird to say the least :-S .

And since then, she’s sent me about half a dozen messages, all kind of bland. And then she tells me tht she’s off for a sleepover round some guys :L .

anyway movie night is tonight, and im kind of worried that its going to end badly, or that what I thought was there won’t be.

What are your thoughts in this? I just can’t make out this woman at all .

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Dr. Ozy 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (3 minutes after post)

this chick is crazy. seriously, if you like your sanity, stay the hell away.

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Dragon_Lady 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

lol

She was in love in four days, and back out in a week.

If you really think you care about her, try to take it very slowly and don’t get your hopes up much. Otherwise, just let her drift away -and she will drift, I’m sure.

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Plasmarox 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (17 minutes after post)

Hi guys - thanks for your help - I appreciate it.

I think you’re right. I’ll pick her up as planned, but im going to have to talk to her and figure this out.

Dragon_Lady 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (41 minutes after post)

Yes; do talk to her, and try to figure out what is going through her head. But…. To be honest, she sounds kinda flakey, so I’d tread carefully and try not to trust her words very far for a good while.

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Plasmarox 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (50 minutes after post)

Yeah, guess I’ve been taken for a tool again. I knew something was off; just didn’t feel right. In the words of chuck berry… You never can tell!

Dragon_Lady 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (52 minutes after post)

Don’t look at it that way! Look at it as you are attractive and desirable, even to those who really aren’t quite ready for real relationships.

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Plasmarox 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

thanks! I’m just so disappointed that someone I was really good friends with once might not be the one.

Dragon_Lady 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

I understand. I really, really do. Just take it slowly; it may yet work out…it just doesn’t seem very likely.

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Plasmarox 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 50 minutes after post)

I’ll just have to see how it goes. Thanks for your help :)

Dr. Ozy 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (7 hours, 25 minutes after post)

beware. any woman who tells you she’s in love with you after 4 days, wants a “face book official” marriage, and then texts you about having “sleepovers” with other men to make you jealous, she’s a basket case. she’s too old to be playing the dating game like a high school freshman. These are serious warning signs of a dysfunctional person to me.

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Plasmarox 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (13 hours, 53 minutes after post)

Hi all,

Thought I owe you a debrief after tonight.

Well, on the way to the pictures (I drive, live in small market town, yada yada), i asked her where we stand, and what she really wanted, and to cut a long story short, she said that she wanted to date, and we talked about how one uses the L word (NOT lesbians) - IE not right away.

So after that there’s not much to tell, other than we had a few laughs, and she said thanks for taking her out and general nice conversation, and we agreed to a second date.

So, I feel that it was kinda a success - I didn’t really know where we were going to begin with, whether she really wanted to date or not, so at least we’re back on track.

She was also kind of shy - I’m not really sure to what to make of her. I think she’s a bit insecure about her shyness and overcompensates via text - or something like that.

Plus, the movie was great too - although I don’t think I’ll be going 3D again.

Dr. Ozy 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (15 hours, 22 minutes after post)

overcompensating for shyness via text or internet messaging makes sense. your date seems like it went well. :) just keep an eye on make-him-jealous behavior. insecure women have the ability to rationalize truly baffling things.

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Plasmarox 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 1 hour after post)

Heh, how do you deal with make jealous behaviour? Presumably she’s trying to find out if you like her or not. :)

Dr. Ozy 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 6 hours after post)

well i personally don’t think you should HAVE to deal with it. but of course it’s up to you. the first thing for you to decide is whether or not she’s telling the truth, or saying things because she’s insecure. i mean, i personally would not want to date a woman who has “sleepovers” with other men. i mean, would someone who claimed they loved you and wanted a relationship do that?

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Plasmarox 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 8 hours after post)

Well, I certainly agree with you to a certain extent. But any man or potential interest has to respect that there are friends or relationships which existed well before she even meets to him, as much as he dislikes it.

Dr. Ozy 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 8 hours after post)

true, but you have to draw the line somewhere. it doesn’t matter so much now, because you just started dating. perhaps her attitude will change as the relationship changes.

so i guess i’m confused a bit about what you said. she told you she’s in love with you, but then you had a conversation where you both agreed that saying “i love you” shouldn’t happen right away?

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Plasmarox 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 8 hours after post)

Yeah, that’s right. We were flirtatiously texting when she told me that, which was Monday. Then, when I picked yesterday, I asked her whether she meant it, and she said, “don’t you love me?”, so I told her the truth - I don’t know her well enough.

It does bother me. But, she tells me, she stayed over his because he lives near her work, and she can walk instead of getting the bus (which is expensive and unreliable where we live). This guy is older around 30 and has his own house. Not sure if this changes things though.

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